Wendyl Nissen

His teachers complain that he is disruptive and rude, but they don’t see what his mother sees.

Having a big age gap in a relationship might be fine now, but what about further down the track?

Sam asks about moving in with his girlfriend.

A sister discusses inheritance issues.

Lorraine Downes chats about her relationship with her mum.

A sister asks about being treated like dirt.

A recently divorcee father's relationship with his children.

Finding something to do in retirement can be a challenge for some people.

Advice on what to do when a new partner doesn't quite fit your expectations...

Advice on how to deal with a parent who is always working.

My friend gets angry that she’s not invited...

My lifelong friend of more than 20 years recently confided to me that she has been cheating on her husband for six months.

Seeking information from a tarot card reader is all well and good, but it should never be taken too seriously – especially if it is putting your friendship at risk.

I moved in with my partner six months ago and we are getting on well in most departments. I knew when I met him that he had very different taste to me, but now I’m having to live with it.

My marriage recently split up after my husband (their father) left me for a younger woman...

There are two dates on a woman’s calendar that should not be messed with – her birthday and Valentine’s Day. So when his mates turn up, what is a girl to do?

Dear Wendyl, My partner’s parents are divorced and have been for the past 20 years. They really hate each other so we’ve always seen them separately, which has worked out fine. The problem is we now have a young daughter, who they both adore and love to spend time with, but they are using her […]

Sometimes feeling the same enthusiasm for our children’s partners can be a bit of a struggle, but interfering is not the answer.

Dear Wendyl, I am getting married in three months and we were recently devastated to nd that my mother-in-law only has a few weeks left to live...

Dear Wendyl, I was recently invited to a friend’s wedding, but my partner was left off the invitation.

Dear Wendyl, I have been seeing a really nice man for six months and am beginning to wonder if we will ever settle down together.

Dear Wendyl, My daughter recently gave birth to my two beautiful twin granddaughters. We all love them so much and I see them most days...

Dear Wendyl, When I first met my wife, she smelled delicious to me. She didn’t wear any perfume and was a very natural sort of lady.

Dear Wendyl, I have a mother who is 98 and in care. Her sight and hearing are bad and every time I visit it’s really depressing to see that her quality of life has been reduced so much. Last time I saw her she told me that she wanted to die. She said she had […]

Dear Wendyl, My sister has a five-year-old daughter who I am worried about. I recently heard that she offered her daughter a small piece of venison for dinner and my niece refused to eat it. My sister sent her to bed without tea and for the next two to three days offered only that same […]

Dear Wendyl, My 20-year-old son was the result of a brief fling on a holiday many years ago, but I’ve always fudged this a bit with him, saying his father and I “lost touch”.

Dear Wendyl, A few years ago a member of our family went off the rails and descended into a sordid life of drink and drugs, with some thieving too, which resulted in time in prison. The good news is that he has found God and is now a different person. The downside to this is […]

Dear Wendyl, What should you do if you think there is a case of elder abuse going on? I suspect that the little old lady next door is being assaulted by her son...

Dear Wendyl, I am one of five children, but my widowed mother has decided that I am the one who must look after her...

Dear Wendyl, I have recently ended a relationship. I lost it in a fit of anger after some months of being rejected and pushed away.

Dear Wendyl, I had been with my boyfriend for six years and then we broke up because we are of different religions...

Dear Wendyl, My 18-year-old daughter and I used to have a really good relationship. But lately, every time we go out she seems to enjoy criticising how I look.

**Dear Wendyl, **My brother-in-law recently split up from his wife and had nowhere to go, so we said he could come and stay with us for a while. Well, it’s been six months and he’s still living with us – rent-free, slobbing around in a depressed state and making no effort to find his own […]

Dear Wendyl, I recently met a man at a party who I really like. We are both in our forties and he’s been single for two years, while I’ve been alone for a lot longer.

Dear Wendyl, I am a working mum with two kids and a very nice husband who does his fair share of the housework. My problem is that he has boundless energy and I don’t.

Dear Wendyl, I recently took my mother-in-law on an overseas trip to see my two adult children who live in Australia with their father.

Dear Wendyl, My granddaughter is four years old and an absolute delight to be with. When she spends time with me we get up to all sorts of mischief with adventures in the bush and quite a lot of playtime, which leaves her a bit dirty. Her mother has asked me to stop playing with […]

Dear Wendyl, I have an 18-year-old daughter who is in a steady relationship with her boyfriend of two years.

Dear Wendyl, I’m in my sixties and my husband died two years ago. I’ve found that since he has gone, I have no friends...

Dear Wendyl, Two years ago I met and fell in love with a man, and before we knew it we were pregnant.

Dear Wendyl, When I split up from my husband I had no interest in starting another relationship, preferring to focus entirely on my two children...

Dear Wendyl, I’ve been having an affair with someone I shouldn’t be having an affair with and I really want to stop, but he won’t let me.

Dear Wendyl, I’m a divorcee, in my forties and desperate to be in a relationship again. I’ve met guys who I think are right for me...

Dear Wendyl, Am I being a stalker if I became a Facebook friend of my ex by using another name?

Dear Wendyl, My next door neighbour eats a lot of junk food and so do her kids. I, on the other hand, take my children’s health really seriously...

Dear Wendyl, I’ve been taking the Pill for years and I’m a bit sick of it as it makes me put on weight and feel quite bloated and disgusting.

Dear Wendyl, My partner’s ex insists that when we have his child to stay, I write down everything I feed him in a diary. I started doing it, then realised she might be being unrealistic. Surely his father (and I) can be trusted? What do you think? Jane, by email Dear Jane, Just don’t do […]

Dear Wendyl, When my coffee group has its regular get-togethers the conversation often turns to sex. Although I’m not a prude, I feel quite awkward...

Dear Wendyl, My husband of nearly 20 years came home the other night and told me he has gone off me sexually. He said it while we were watching TV.

Dear Wendyl, I have a dear friend who has always been eccentric, but it’s something I love about her. During the last four years, however, she has had three life crises which have involved yoga retreats, shaving her hair and living by some new book she found. I’ve always tried to be supportive but have […]

Dear Wendyl, My sister had her engagement party recently and everyone had a good time, or so I thought. My other sister told me my engaged sister was “disappointed”...

Dear Wendyl, My husband and I signed up at a local gym two months ago as we both decided it would be fun to get fit together and have a shared interest.

Dear Wendyl, My daughter is mad-keen on soccer and athletics. She has practice most nights and plays games or competes on weekends.

Dear Wendyl, I have always been very close to my son, who’s now 12. He used to talk to me about everything and I thought when he hit puberty...

Dear Wendyl, I’m in my early thirties, very fun-loving and social, and married to the sweetest man you could find. But a while ago I spent a weekend away with some friends and something terrible happened. I slept with one of my girlfriends, which at the time seemed quite natural, as we were all a […]

Dear Wendyl, My husband is one of many Kiwis who suffer from depression. In the early days of our marriage we didn’t know what was wrong and several times I nearly left him.

**Dear Wendyl, **My husband has been having an affair for the past six months, but I only just found out about it. I caught him out and he admitted it and since then he has been verbally abusive to me, really disgusting and he refuses to move out. Can I make him? I don’t have […]

Dear Wendyl, All of my three kids are now at school and I really want to go to university and do the study I missed out on when I got pregnant at 17.

Dear Wendyl, Two years ago when I was working at a different place, I had an affair with someone. Actually, he’s the reason I eventually left, because it began to get too serious...

Dear Wendyl, My husband is really helpful around the house and does his fair share of the chores, which is great. However, I wish he wouldn’t try to help with the grocery shopping.

Dear Wendyl, I recently came into some money from an uncle who died. I’m in my fifties and have pretty much everything I need, so I want to make a significant donation...

Dear Wendyl, My husband has been a very successful businessman and we’re very well off...

Dear Wendyl, I’m one of those lucky people who has a really glamorous mother. She used to be a model and has always looked fantastic.

Dear Wendyl, My 18-year-old daughter is planning to get a tattoo and I’m desperately trying to change her mind. She wants to get a dragon, of all things, but I think it will look terrible.

Dear Wendyl, My best friend and I both got pregnant around the same time and we have had the most wonderful time together sharing in our pregnancies...

Dear Wendyl, I recently got kicked out of my flat – I didn’t do anything bad, my landlord just decided to sell it

Dear Wendyl, Six months ago my brother went to jail for a horrible crime. I have no doubt in my mind he’s guilty and for that reason I refuse to visit him. My family say he needs our  support but I won’t do it. He’s always thought he could get away with stuff and I […]

Dear Wendyl, over the holidays I met an amazing guy while I was away on a friend’s boat.

Dear Wendyl, I have a great relationship with my girlfriend. We make each other laugh, have lots of things in common and have great sex...

Is cheating on holiday still counted? Our agony aunt Wendyl dissects the situation

Dear Wendyl, I returned from Australia four years ago and mended myself back together after my relationship didn’t work out.

Dear Wendyl, I’m in a relationship with my ex partner’s closest mate and have been for the last two years.

I’ve been seeing a guy for over a year and he was very caring and loving – then I noticed a change in him.

Dear Wendyl, I thought I had been happily married for over 35 years until I discovered my husband is what I suppose you would describe as a cross-dresser...

Dear Wendyl, My friend recently sold her house but the new owners don’t take possession for two months as they’re returning from overseas. I went to visit the other day and she was planting out a garden and painting the fence, even though the house is sold and she will be moving out soon. She […]

Dear Wendyl, my husband and my teenage daughter used to be best friends, she was a real “Daddy’s girl” as they say. Then she turned 16 and now the two of them are at it tooth and nail!

Dear Wendyl, I made a New Year’s resolution this year to give up smoking and I’ve actually done it. I had been a smoker for 30 years, but I really feel like I’ve kicked it this time. The problem is my partner of 25 years is still smoking and refuses to even consider going without. […]

Dear Wendyl, I’m the single mother of a 15-year-old girl and we have always got along fine, until recently when we went camping. Some friends invited us and I thought “why not?”. Well, we got there and it was an awful experience. My daughter turned her nose up at everything and refused to make friends […]

Dear Wendyl, I’m worried my 14-year-old daughter might be having sex. I’ve been thinking about this ever since I read something she messaged her friends about on Facebook

Dear Wendyl, I had a lovely Christmas with my family, but one thing keeps bugging me. My husband didn't get me a present, even though I spent a lot of time and money buying something for him

Dear Wendyl, My wife nagged me nonstop to get her a dog for Christmas. She has a friend who has one and heard of a breeder who had some puppies, and decided she simply had to have one. So I bought her one, but now she does nothing for it. I walk it, feed it […]

Memories of long, hot Kiwi summers are wonderful when you live overseas, but what happens when that kind of summer fails to materialise for a special guest?

Safety in numbers is great for some things, but not when you’re overweight and relying on a friend to make you feel okay about that.

Dear Wendyl, Recently I met a great man. We get on so well, share a lot of the same interests and he adores me. But no matter how hard I try I'm not physically attracted to him. When we sleep together

Dear Wendyl, I come from an unusual family in that I'm the only one who has managed to make a go at life. I own my own business, have a great marriage and three terrific kids. But the rest of my family

Dear Wendyl, Recently my boyfriend and I had a huge argument. We had both had a bit to drink, but I never expected him to hit me. He whacked me across the side of my face so hard that I fell against the

Dear Wendyl, our daughter and her ex husband ended their marriage recently. As the divorce is a good length of time away, we would like to know if we're still beholden to give gifts to the ex for Christmas

Dear Wendyl, I love my partner of six months a lot and our sex life is pretty amazing. The only problem is he still talks about his ex and the antics they got up to in the bedroom. We'll be in bed and

Dealing with a partner's infidelity can be more difficult than some people can bear, so the relationship breaks up. But what if your partner mends their ways and refuses to leave? Hi Wendyl, I thought

Dear Wendyl, I have just moved into a new rental property. I'm 44, single and live on my own, and I have met a very nice new neighbour. He's single, 42 and lives with his son.

Trust is so important if any relationship is going to be truly happy. But what happens when trust is lost all because of a computer? Dear Wendyl, I think my husband has been watching pornography late

Some people look forward to retiring when they're older, but others would rather have more financial security and be busy, so they keep working. But what happens when your husband forces you to retire?

Dear Wendyl, Six months ago I went on a business trip with a team from work. one night, after we’d finished a hard day’s work, I drank too much and ended up in bed with a colleague in his hotel room. The next day we both agreed it was a bad idea and left it […]

Dear Wendyl, My husband has been divorced for 14 years. After all this time his ex-wife still comes before him and me

Dear Wendyl, Some friends recently set me up with a guy by inviting us both to a party. It was a bit awkward, as we both knew we were being set up, but I knew the minute I saw him that he was the one

Dear Wendyl, I moved recently, and get along with my new neighbours very well. often we'll get together to do gardening or watch movies. one of my neighbours is a very nice man, and we get on famously.

Dear Wendyl, My husband recently invited some old friends of ours to stay for two weeks. They were visiting from Australia and we hadn't seen them for 20 years

Dear Wendyl, Recently there was a report in the paper about the number of sexual partners people have in their lifetime. My husband read it and asked me how many I have had, so I told him. He was really shocked and said he had no idea when he married me 25 years ago that […]

Dear Wendyl, my girlfriends say I'm not open with them enough about difficulties in my personal life

Dear Wendyl, I've been seeing a man in what I thought was a casual relationship where we meet up, go out, sleep together and generally have fun. We're both in our forties...