Dear Wendyl,
My partner’s ex insists that when we have his child to stay, I write down everything I feed him in a diary. I started doing it, then realised she might be being unrealistic. Surely his father (and I) can be trusted? What do you think?
Jane, by email
Dear Jane,
Just don’t do it. It’s a great idea to have a notebook to record medicines and things going on at school, but writing down his food is over the top and seems a bit controlling. Run it past your partner, but record what you think is appropriate and set your own rules for when you have the child.
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