Dear Wendyl,
My husband recently invited some old friends of ours to stay for two weeks. They were visiting from Australia and we hadn’t seen them for 20 years, but he insisted everything would be just like it used to be. I had some reservations about it. But they arrived and we all got on well, except for one thing – the noise they made in the bedroom next to ours every night!
These people were at it like rabbits and they’re in their sixties, for heaven’s sake! I had to go and buy earplugs, and I could barely look them in the eye over breakfast. My problem now is that since they’ve left, my husband seems to feel we should be more like them in the bedroom, and he’s putting pressure on me.
I’m 67 and I thought that was all over years ago. Help!
Maria, by email
Dear Maria,
Really? All over at 67? Are you sure?
I have to say that everything I read about having a healthy sex life right into very old age points to an increased pleasure in life and better health, so why not give it a go? I can understand that getting back on the horse – so to speak – could be terrifying, so why not break it down into achievable units?
First, talk to your husband about it and discuss what you both used to like doing. Then have a few drinks or a nice relaxing bath before bed and try not to feel pressured.
I think if you take it slowly and talk a lot together about it you might find you have a nice time together. And look on the bright side – you won’t have kids walking in or stressful careers taking your mind off things, just all day to have fun.
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