Dear Wendyl,
My husband of nearly 20 years came home the other night and told me he has gone off me sexually. He said it while we were watching TV. I didn’t know what to say and thought he had found someone else. But he said he still loves me but the sex has been terrible for years and he just wanted to tell me that.
To be honest, he does have a point. We haven’t actually had sex for a year and I just put it down to getting old. I asked him what he thought we should do about it and he said he’d been big enough to bring it up so perhaps I could think of some ideas. What could he mean by that?
*Sexed Out, by email
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**Dear Sexed Out,
**Well that must have put your episode of Coronation Street on the back burner! It isn’t exactly what you expect your hubby to come out with on a weeknight, is it? But I really admire your husband. Can you imagine how hard it was to say that and to be honest with you? Give him some credit for making the effort to sort out a big problem in your relationship.
I think you should reward him and your relationship by doing some research and being willing to work out some solutions. There are many books on the subject and websites you can read. And you might find that some of the ideas are very easy to try and ultimately quite enjoyable. Have fun restoring your marriage.
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