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Dear Wendyl, I had a lovely Christmas with my family, but one thing keeps bugging me. My husband didn't get me a present, even though I spent a lot of time and money buying something for him

**Dear Wendyl,

**I had a lovely Christmas with my family, but one thing keeps bugging me. My husband didn’t get me a present, even though I spent a lot of time and money buying something for him.

When I asked him about it, he said in front of everyone, “Surely we’re past that sort of thing. We’ve been married for 31 years!” Everyone laughed and so did I, but I still feel really unloved. Even though I know it’s just a present, it hurts. Should I tell him?

Irene, Nelson

Dear Irene,

Yes, you should. Preferably before your birthday, or else there will be a repeat performance. He’s being a lazy so-and-so and needs to realise 31 years of marriage should be a reason to make more effort, not less.

Tell him how upset you were and how little it takes to shop for a present for someone you love. Explain that you’d appreciate it if he would take the time to make the gesture. Otherwise he might find 31 years of marriage means you’re past cooking and cleaning and looking after him when he gets “man flu”.

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