Relationships

Time to get going

There are two dates on a woman’s calendar that should not be messed with – her birthday and Valentine’s Day. So when his mates turn up, what is a girl to do?

Dear Wendyl, My boyfriend and I have been going out for a month, but he really upset me by making me spend my birthday drinking with his mates. At the time he said it had been arranged

before he met me and he couldn’t get out of it. He seemed to think it was a great honour for me to be allowed to come out with him, even thought it was my birthday.

I don’t know why I agreed and had a terrible time, which ended with me watching him throw up in the gutter before getting him home in a taxi. We’re still together but I’m really angry about it. Is this a sign?

Disappointed, via email*

Dear Disappointed, You’re still together? Why? Did you wake up one morning and decide you were born to be walked over and have no substance as a person? It was your time to celebrate and, in the scheme of things, your birthday and Valentine’s Day are pretty much no-go areas for boyfriend’s mates. So from month one he is treating you with no respect and it will only go downhill from here.

If you want to wake up two years from now to find that you are hosting a piss-up, followed by rugby on the TV on your special day, be my guest. If not, get out.*

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