Miserable mum

Dear Wendyl,

Two years ago I met and fell in love with a man, and before we knew it we were pregnant. I had only known him for a little while but I was convinced he was the man for me, so we had our baby and got married. Now I think I’ve made a huge mistake. Nothing about my life brings me joy, I can’t stand the sight of my husband and I don’t enjoy all the hard things about having a baby. I feel like I’ve ruined my life. What can I do?

Miserable Mum, by email

Dear Miserable Mum,

Let’s focus on the fact that you have no joy. This is a symptom of depression and I’d like you to visit your GP as soon as you can and tell them what you told me. Your unhappiness with your husband and baby may be because you’re struggling to cope with depression, which can paint everything black, when it isn’t really. So get some treatment and give yourself a chance to heal, then look at your situation with new eyes. Please take this seriously – get help.