Worst of times

Dear Wendyl,The past two years have been the worst ever. My marriage broke up, I didn’t get promoted at work, I can’t afford my mortgage and I’m not happy with my friends. Someone suggested I see a counsellor but I think I’m coping all right. I’ve just had a string of bad luck. When do you think is the right time to see a counsellor?Emma, Sandringham

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Dear Emma, I’m a big fan of counsellors, mainly because the good ones will take one look at you and either tell you to come back for some more sessions or tell you to go away because you’re fine. Unfortunately there are some others out there who will take your money and let you talk but you’ll end up no better off, so I always suggest asking around your friends or talking to your GP to find someone who comes recommended.

But first, I’m going to tell you something really important. No-one can fix this but you. Whether you see a counsellor or not, you need to make some hard decisions. Sell the house, find another job, get new friends. Finding contentmnt is hard work and the sooner you start, the sooner “the worst two years” will be just that and not “the worst three years”, which is where I suspect you are heading.Wendyl