Still waiting for the peak

Dear Wendyl, I read that a woman’s sexual peak is during her mid-thirties. Well I’m 36 now and I’m still waiting for mine. I would like to enjoy sex more but find I’m always avoiding it with my husband, and when we do have it, I simply don’t get much from it. Do you think I’m abnormal? And if so, is there anything I can do? *

Lust-Free, North Island*


Dear Lust-Free, I think all that sexual-peak stuff is a bit stupid, really. Women generally have great sex when they are relaxed and with a man who knows what he is doing. Too often, women blame themselves for a less-than-satisfactory sex life when it’s the husband who is indulging in a bit of wham, bam, thank you, ma’am. My advice is to get all the help you can by reading books, checking with your GP that everything is all right, and talking to your husband about your sexual relationship. A book I have recommended before is Satisfaction: The Art of the Female orgasm, by Kim Cattrall of Sex and the City fame. Leave it lying around – it might give your husband some ideas.Wendyl

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