Can't get over crush | Now to Love

Dear Wendyl, I’m a 53-year-old funloving single woman, who is up for most things and has a really good life. My problem is that I’ve got a huge crush on a man at work and, even though I know he’s not interested, I can’t stop thinking about him. The reason I know he’s not interested is that I asked him out once and he turned me down. I was okay with it, but I keep thinking that maybe I could still get him if I lost some weight or maybe it just wasn’t a good time for him when I asked. He’s still single so I thought I might give it another go. Do you think I should? Crazy in Love, email

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Dear Crazy in Love,I have to say the words “funloving” and “up for most things” are sending me very bad signals. You’re not trying too hard, are you? Sometimes the most off-putting thing for anyone can be when someone who fancies them is dancing so close to their face they can’t breathe for the fog of desperation coming off them. Are you giving off one of those fogs?

In my experience, if a man’s not interested there’s no changing his mind. And imagine if he did go out with you because you lost some weight, what would that say about how he regards you as a person? Do yourself a favour and forget this guy. I know it’s hard but a bit of distraction will work wonders so get out and about, maybe try a bit of online dating, and next time, remember to pull back on the horsepower and just be yourself. You might be pleasantly surprised.Wendyl