It’s been almost two years since I left radio and I’m flattered by how many people message me to say they miss hearing me on air. So, I have news… I’m coming back to the mic! I won’t be on the radio, but I’m starting my first podcast – and it’s not what I imagined I’d talk about.
I assumed my first podcast would be about pop culture, celebrities or chatting to inspiring people, but somehow I ended up lying in a bed with another woman, discussing one of the most awkward subjects ever – sex!
The podcast is called How To Have Sex and it’s very educational! Most podcast sets involve two armchairs and mics or a table with a bookshelf of relevant knick-knacks on it, but my set is a bedroom! We sit in an actual bed, complete with pillows, a duvet and microphones, and talk about orgasms.
One coach, one curious learner
My co-host Melissa Vranjes is a sex and relationship coach, and unlike me, she can talk about all things spicy and erotic as if she’s describing what she’s having for dinner. She’s smart, calm and comfortable in this space.
Me? I’m the curious, awkward student asking all the questions many women secretly want answered but are too embarrassed to say out loud.
And really, why is sex still so hard to talk about publicly? Most of us are having it, yet so many of us only talk about it after a couple of wines with our closest girlfriends.
I think a lot of us were raised to believe sex should stay behind closed doors, that “nice” women don’t discuss it too openly and that we’re somehow meant to know what we’re doing without ever actually learning. So instead, we pick up bits and pieces from the internet, ex-boyfriends, TV and porn, and call that sex education.
Rewriting the script
That’s a big part of why we wanted to do this podcast. We have a common goal – to unlearn all the bad education, and start talking properly about desire, confidence, communication, pleasure and intimacy. They’re the things no one really teaches us but all of us want to understand.
This podcast isn’t shocking for the sake of it – it’s educational, funny, honest and hopefully helpful. I have personally learned quite a lot in a very short time!
Getting comfortable with discomfort
I’ll admit I spend a lot of the time wincing and cringeing at some of the personal questions Mel asks me, and there are definitely moments where I want to dive head- first under the duvet and never come out. But if my embarrassment helps other women feel more informed and confident, then it’s worth it.
So come and join us in bed – not literally, of course – and see what you might learn.
Search for the How To Have Sex podcast on Spotify or YouTube.
