Facebook manners

What happens when your family gets involved in a Facebook feud?

Dear Wendyl,

My daughters have never been close, and when one of them left to live overseas, I was secretly quite relieved that I wouldn’t have to put up with the pair of them fighting. But they have simply taken their feuding to a whole new level by posting rude things about each other on Facebook. The whole family, including cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents are on Facebook, so we all have to see them sniping away at each other, and it’s just awful. They are aged 24 and 26, and I really think they should stop being so childish. Do you have any advice?

Frustrated Mum, via email

Dear Frustrated Mum,

Leave them to it. The thing about Facebook is that you have a choice about whether to humiliate yourself in public or not.

Both your daughters have obviously decided that mutual humiliation is the thing for them as they work through their sibling issues, so I doubt you are going to be able to stop them. I think you are more concerned about the rest of the family seeing how revolting they are, and this embarrasses you. So have a chat to yourself and accept that they are adults and you are beyond changing their behaviour, and take a break from Facebook for a while. Your family knows where you live if there’s any really important news you need to know. I think you will feel much better for it.

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