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This bride had a strange request for her bridesmaid

How far can a bride-to-be push a friend into changing her appearance before the big day?
This bride had a strange request for her bridesmaid

From unflattering dresses right through to dealing with emotional outbursts, sometimes a lot is asked of bridesmaids.

But one woman’s demand takes the cake when she was asked to dye her naturally red hair so she wouldn’t “clash” with the wedding colour scheme – at least that was the bride’s reason to start with.

Posting to Reddit the woman, who called herself bridehairthrowaway, outlined the awkward.

“So I’ve known my friend, who I’ll refer to as Ella, since I was a child as she’s the daughter of family friends but we’ve only become close in the past 2 or 3 years. She recently became engaged, and I readily accepted her offer to be part of her bridal party.

“Yesterday morning I received an email from Ella. It seemed pretty standard but then when she got into the look she wants for her bridesmaids she wrote ‘Bridehairthrowaway, you’ll need to dye your hair for the day, I’ll take you to my hairdresser and cover the cost :)’. This had never been mentioned to me. I’m a natural ginger, so it’s not like I have an outrageous hair colour, although Ella and her other bridesmaids are all brunettes.

“I texted Ella about it, she told me my hair would clash with the wedding colours and that brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids’ appearances.

She also mentioned my hair is quite ‘attention-grabbing’ and I’d take away from the cohesiveness of the group. I told her I wasn’t comfortable dying my hair. She said she’d get back to me but hoped I’d reconsider.

“Am I being reasonable here? I’ve never been involved in a wedding before so I’m not quite sure what’s expected of me. I’ve gotten some messages from the other bridesmaids who are telling me I should just do it.”

Fellow Reddit users showed their support, telling the young woman she should not have to dye her hair to be part of the wedding.

But not was all as it seemed. The bridesmaid-to-be returned to the social network with a shocking update.

It wasn’t the bride that was the problem – it was her groom.

“Long story short, I am not going to be involved in Ella’s wedding in any way,” she wrote.

After the two families spoke, it was revealed the groom, Pete, has a “redhead fetish”.

“This all kind of made sense. I’ve met Pete a couple of times and Ella always seemed to be in a rush to leave the conversation and move on. He also stared a lot.

“Why was I even asked to be a bridesmaid? Her parents ‘strongly encouraged’ it, and are footing the entire bill. I’m generally fairly quiet and accommodating person so I guess she figured I’d just go with it.

The redhead says she will probably avoid attending the wedding at all.

“The whole situation is just too weird and uncomfortable, I’m assuming there’s no coming back from this,” she wrote.

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