Men share what they really look for in a wife

And the list isn’t as predictable as you might have thought.


The path to true love never did run smooth, but what is it that turns just another girl into wife material?

As ever, Reddit was at the rescue to find the answers, and men gave them in droves.

While we half expected crude comments about a woman’s appearance, or their ability to cook & clean, the results are surprisingly lovely.

From being kind hearted, to being the most interesting woman they’ve ever met, here are the top things men look for in their wives.

Throwing out the checklist

“This. My wife loves me for who I am. It wasn’t about who she thought I could be, or who she thought she could make me into, but just wanted to be with me. Despite all my flaws and weird habits she still wanted to be with me.”

The most interesting person I’ve ever met

“She was the most interesting girl I ever met, she was smart and attractive and mostly nice, and I feel in love naturally. She said she wanted kids and to be married, and somehow that didn’t scare the hell out of me. If I’d have a checklist I’m sure I’d be either alone right now or miserable / part of a broken home if any.”

She’s a challenge

“I want someone that I can argue with (and who will argue with me), without it turning into a fight. Someone that can call me on my BS when it matters, who isn’t going to flip out if I call her on hers. I’d much rather be with someone who will challenge me and make me rethink things than someone who is trying too hard to be nice and sweet all the time. (Then again, I may just have a thing for hot tempered girls.)”

What really makes someone wife material?


“She loves what she does, she cares about herself as much as she cares about me and she smiles a lot. Bonus: she likes the same music as me.”


“A best friend. If we can laugh our assess off together about something silly, share the glory of a big indulgent meal, fall asleep watching/reading something stupid together, get trapped in a shitty situation and laugh at it because it’s a shared adventure…That’s my girl.”

What’s the secret to a long lasting marriage?


“Does she make me laugh? This to me was the #1 reason I knew I’d met my match. No matter how shitty my day is, she will do something to make me laugh. All of the other stuff can go away. Bodies lose their firmness. Hobbies fade. Things you both enjoy now might be boring later. But do you know what doesn’t? Laughing at stupid fucking bullshit together. Find someone you can laugh with.”

Good values

“Values. You have to have values that have some intersection. Looks, health, wealth, all changes, but of those values seem to remain the most over a longer period of time. So, the hottest woman in the world, but hates to learn and read? Good bye. An attractive, affluent person, but tramples on others dignity? Bye.”

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