Unlucky in love?

It’s always upsetting when we hear a friend or relative has split with their partner, but when someone we love simply can’t seem to keep a relationship going, it might be more than just bad luck…

Dear Wendyl, oy sister is one of those people who is “unlucky in love”. She is attractive, outgoing, in her mid-thirties and never has any trouble getting a man- it’s keeping them that’s the problem. After a few months the men she’s in relationships with seem to lose interest and leave, and she is devastated. How can I help her hang on to the next one and make it through to the long-term stage? Worried Sis, New Plymouth

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Dear Worried Sis,

I’m not sure who appointed you as your sister’s counsellor and I’m not sure you should be doing this job. of course you want your sister to be happy, but from the little you’ve told me, I already know your sister has issues. She seems to be very good at being “in love” but not much good at the lasting type of love, which is where you have to work a bit harder and be a friend, give as well as take, and put the effort into a commitment. She needs to learn the difference. And she might just like it this way, despite the tears and devastation, so check first before you rush in on your white horse. If she wants help, there are things you can do.