Dear Wendyl,
A few weeks ago I met a really nice woman at a friend’s party and we’ve seen quite a bit of each other since then. I enjoy her company, but she’s asked me to go away with her for the weekend to stay at a bach with some of her friends, and I’m just not ready for that.
When I told her how I feel, she got upset and things have definitely cooled off. What can I do to get back to where we were?
Bruce, by email
Dear Bruce,
I’m guessing your new friend is closer in age to 50 than 20 and that a relationship is quite high on her list of priorities. She obviously thought things were on track, and was naturally very keen to show you off to her friends.
All you needed to do, and what you may need to do now, is simply ask that you slow things down a bit. As long as you tell her how much you fancy her and how much you enjoy her company, she’ll come around, but also be open to letting this develop into something serious.
I recommend that you take her out for a nice romantic dinner. Start with all the positives, tell her why you don’t want to hurry things along (I’m sure you have a real doozy of a heartbreak story to share with her), then proceed with your relationship at a pace that works for you both.
Wendyl
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