Real Life

Meet the teachers who use the forest as their classroom

These teachers foster a love of learning in the great outdoors
Carmen Bird, Tom Morales at Cool Cucumbers

When you think back to school, there’s a good chance most of it was spent inside four walls, behind a desk. But in a pocket of bush on the Hibiscus Coast in Auckland is The Forest School – a long-held dream in action of husband-and-wife duo Gavin and Tennille Murdoch.

Instead of workbooks and tests, kids play freely in the bush, engineer drainage systems, build treehouses and shelters, use power tools, and take an active role in caring for the local bush and beach. They surf and snorkel, cook over the fire and create nature-inspired art.

“Children are more than just academic learners,” insists mother-of-three Tennille, 43, who founded the school seven years ago. “Every day, we give them the chance to learn intellectually, physically, socially, emotionally and so much more.

“Often so much weight is put solely on the intellectual side of children’s learning, but at the end of the day, all I want as a parent, and what most parents want, is to have happy kids who believe in their abilities and have the confidence to try new things. Learning to read is still essential, but we forget it’s not everything.”

It’s a ground-breaking way to learn.

Each day at The Forest School there is a learning menu on offer highlighting experiences children can choose from. The morning starts with welcoming everyone, a team game and feeding the farm animals, followed by afternoons at the beach, then reflections from the day and cooking food over the fire to finish.

Talking to the Weekly, Tennille and Gavin, who are parents to sons Elliot, 24, Jesse, 14, and Jojo, 13, are clearly passionate about the alternative education they’ve created.

“The biggest thing we think about is high engagement,” shares Gavin, who as a child delighted in escaping school to play in the nearby West Auckland bush. “Rather than prescribing what they’re going to learn, we try to have these flexible experiences, driven by them where they’re fully absorbed and engaged.”

Tennille has been a primary school teacher for 22 years, while Gavin’s career has seen him working in outdoor pursuits as a professional lifeguard featured on TV series Piha Rescue, and with at-risk youth and as a high school teacher.

“When we met in 2006, we were so different – like chalk and cheese,” tells Tennille. “I was teaching at Kohimarama School in Mission Bay in my skirt and heels, while he was a Westie out at Piha. I never in my life thought I’d be teaching in the bush.

“But life changes you and being a mum of three boys certainly changes you!”

With their kids (from left) Jojo, Jesse and Elliot.

It was when their youngest son Jojo was struggling at primary school that Tennille took a leap of faith. Combining her play-based learning experience with the international research she’d been doing on forest schooling, she created an alternative option where Jojo and other kids could thrive.

“Jojo was the catalyst for big change, but I also see how play, especially nature play, benefits all children so much. My passion for teaching and love for children meant I had to do something different to meet their needs. I couldn’t just do nothing.”

Once they set a goal to start the first Forest School in New Zealand, Gavin knew his wife would succeed.

“You can see it when she talks about how much she loves children,” he says proudly. “She’s a real fighter for lots of things. You have to be when you’re putting a stake in the ground that is really different to the norm in society. You have to be pretty strong to do that.”

Tenille adds, “I was a single mum for eight years before I met Gavin. I had Elliot when I was 19 and put myself through teacher’s college when he was six months old. I’ve always had a bit of fight in me and this was another thing I was determined to do.”

The kids have a whale of a time reading with Tennille.

Now from Tuesday to Friday, 30 to 35 kids generally attend one day a week alongside school or home education, arriving at the idyllic property to learn and play, and it’s a full-time job for the couple.

“There are more than 20 one-day nature schools nationwide now,” says Gavin. “We knew it had the potential to impact education across the country and I hope this is just the start.”

It’s a constant commitment with plenty of hard work and admin after hours, but both agree it is the best, most fun job they’ve ever had.

“Gavin is so incredibly playful and clever,” says Tennille. “In many ways, he’s still that five-year-old playing in the bush. Even at 47, he still runs through the forest and climbs trees to get away from the kids during Manhunt – and they love it!”

To find out more, visit theforestschool.co.nz

Celebrity News

Kiwi squash champ Paul Coll’s big Greek wedding plans

Paul and his fellow sports star fiancée Nele Gilis have their wedding and the Paris Olympics in their sights!
Lydia Nimmo, Getty

Chatting to champion squash player Paul Coll about his recent title wins, you’d never guess he was currently number three in the world – or even number one in New Zealand – with his typically casual Kiwi demeanour.

The Greymouth-born athlete takes his sporting success in his stride. It probably helps that he’s engaged to fellow squash player and women’s world number four Nele Gilis, who hails from Belgium.

The couple is talking to Woman’s Day from the deck of Paul’s parents’ home on the West Coast not long after taking out the men’s and women’s titles at the New Zealand Squash Open in December.

“This season has been good,” shrugs Paul, 31. “It was a nice six months for us. We got some good results.”

‘We’re living our dream!’

Together for more than eight years, he and Nele, 27, have spent that time travelling the world and playing at the same tournaments. Winning national titles side by side is just another day in the young couple’s life.

“It’s pretty normal,” Paul insists. “Our life revolves around squash. The fact we can travel together and we’re not really away from each other for too long – maybe two weeks at a time – definitely makes life easy. You take home with you in a way.”

The pair met at a squash tournament in Ireland in 2016 and got engaged during a trip back to Aotearoa in December 2022.

“I knew I wanted to propose here,” explains Paul. “We were up north camping and the time was right. The ring is very Kiwi – it’s made partially of pounamu from the West Coast. I wanted to make it a real New Zealand experience because Nele loves it here.”

Trophies for two at 2023’s New Zealand Open.

The couple share a love of the outdoors and all of their holidays, though brief and rare, consist of beach visits and getting back to nature.

“We love that side of life, so I wanted to do something like that for the proposal to make it special,” says Paul. “New Zealand was the obvious choice where we could celebrate with my family. It was cool.”

Having visited Paul’s family every second Christmas, Nele has fallen in love with Aotearoa. So much so, they’re already making plans to possibly move here after their retirement from sport.

“I can totally see us raising our kids here,” says Nele. “It’s such a beautiful, safe space. Everyone’s so chilled out. You just feel away from the rest of the world.”

For now, they’re living just outside of Amsterdam, close to Nele’s folks, because it makes tournament travel easiest. But they’ve agreed on Greece for their wedding location because of the beautiful beaches and the fact it’s neutral ground for both their families.

“Mine are keen to tag on a European holiday, so Greece worked out perfectly,” smiles Paul, adding they’ve scheduled a week of wedding festivities so their respective relatives can mix and mingle.

“We have three events planned over the week, so everyone can still relax on holiday but also get to know each other. They probably won’t get to meet up much after that, living on opposite sides of the world.”

Due to their busy sporting schedules, the pair have enlisted the help of a wedding planner. Nele adds, “We have to hold it in July because it’s the only time we really get a break between seasons. This is actually the first proper holiday we’ve had in three years!”

Paul popping the question on a camping trip up north. “It was cool,” he says.

Despite their busy lives, Paul and Nele know the importance of finding time to nurture their relationship.

“It works because we relate to each other so much,” says Paul. “Our similar lifestyles are something we’ve learnt to deal with over the course of our relationship. It’s also helped us to deal with the ups and downs of the sport. While one can be on a massive high from winning, the other can be really down from losing. It definitely helps that we understand how the other feels.”

For example, says Paul, when he was struggling last season, his fiancée pulled him out of his slump.

“Nele was doing really well at the time. It was good to observe what she was doing and how she prepares for tournaments. It made me look in the mirror to see where I was going wrong. It’s inspiring living with someone who has that same mindset and intensity. It definitely rubs off on you when you need it.”

In their day-to-day life, Nele and Paul are very strict about what they eat, how they train and even how they sleep. They get to bed early and are up early for training most days.

Smiling, Paul says, “We’re both on the same wavelength, which makes life a lot easier. But Nele does pull me up on eating too many chips, which is a bit annoying. I’ve been banned from chips. I can only have them on the weekends!”

He and Nele play and train together every week. Asked if they get competitive, Paul chuckles, “Not me, but Nele does.” Laughing, she adds, “There’s often some friendly competition.”

Having both started playing squash at age six, Paul and Nele now share a goal of being number one in the world. She says, “We’re not the kind of people to do something and feel like it’s OK to be just average at it.”

Paul became the first Kiwi male to claim the title in 2022, but he says it takes more than a world ranking to impress Greymouth locals. “When I come home, I get grounded,” he grins. “Everyone takes the piss out of me. They don’t seem to really care at all.”

Hanging out in gorge-eous Hokitika

With squash finally accepted into the Olympics for 2028, the pair will be training hard towards the Los Angeles Games, with Paul estimating he has another five years until retirement. But he’s mindful it’s something he might have to consider sooner rather than later if they want to start a family.

“We talk about having kids, obviously,” says Paul. “It all depends on when Nele is happy and wants to finish playing. I would never put any pressure on her, but we definitely know we both want kids in the future.”

For now, though, they’re both focused on their sporting aspirations.

“We love what we do every day,” says Nele. “It doesn’t feel like we’re working at all. We’re both just living our dream.”

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The inside scoop on some of Hollywood’s most controversial mums

Forget bedtime fairytales – these stars had wild childhoods

Christina & Joan Crawford

The police told Christina they couldn’t help her.

Her mother was one of Hollywood’s biggest stars, but Christina, 84, claimed there was another side to Joan that nobody ever saw. In her infamous 1978 memoir Mommie Dearest, Christina revealed that her adopted mother Joan would burst into alcohol-fuelled furies with no warning and physically abuse her. She was even forced to call the police, believing her mum might kill her. Christina detailed one incident, when she was nine, when Joan dragged her out of bed to beat her with a cane. “People fantasised about who or what I was – that I had this privileged, wealthy, film-star family life,” says Christina. “I didn’t have any of that.”

Brooke & Teri Shields

Teri sat in on all Brooke’s interviews, the actress says.

In her recent documentary Pretty Baby: Brooke Shields, the 58-year-old former model slammed her alcoholic mother Teri for standing by while she was exposed to highly sexualised situations at a very young age. Working as Brooke’s manager, Teri allowed her daughter to be photographed nude at just 10 and to star as a child prostitute in the 1978 movie Pretty Baby when she was 11 – despite Brooke making it clear she was uncomfortable. And let’s not forget her infamous Calvin Klein ads, where she posed in nothing but jeans. Brooke says the pair had a complicated, codependent relationship and her mum – who passed away in 2012, aged 79 – was “needy” and “in love” with her.

Judy Garland & Ethel Gumm

Judy was forced to start performing at age three.

She faced many dangers as Dorothy in The Wizard Of Oz, but Judy claimed that her mother Ethel was “the real Wicked Witch of the West”. According to the book Get Happy: The Life Of Judy Garland, Ethel gave 10-year-old Judy a bizarre mix of energy pills and sleeping pills to ensure she could work long hours, and she was verbally abusive to her daughter. Judy once said, “She would stand in the wings when I was a little girl and if I didn’t feel good, if I was sick to my tummy, she’d say, ‘You get out and sing or I’ll wrap you around the bedpost and break you off short!’ So I’d go out and sing.” Judy claimed her mother was obsessed with making her daughters famous.

Drew & Jaid Barrymore

“She created a monster and didn’t know what to do with the monster,” Drew says.

After spending much of her childhood in the public eye, Drew emancipated herself from her parents, John and Jaid, at the age of 14. When she was only nine, Drew’s mother introduced her daughter to the infamous club Studio 54, where Drew danced with famous men and took cocaine. By 12, Drew had been in rehab for drugs and alcohol, then at 13, her mum put her into a psychiatric ward. “My relationship with my mum is so complicated,” Drew, 48, told Marie Claire. “I’ve always been empathetic toward my mum and we had a really amazing conversation about it. However, it hasn’t enabled me to lessen the distance. It’s the hardest subject in my life.”

Tori & Candy Spelling

Tori claims she learned of her father’s death via email.

Tori and her mother have shared a fraught relationship over the years, but they first became estranged when Tori, 50, had an affair with Dean McDermott, now her estranged husband, while she was still married to Charlie Shanian. Candy, 78, then blamed Tori for her father Aaron’s death, saying he “didn’t want to live” after Tori stopped speaking to the family. When he died, the bulk of his $975 million fortune went to Candy. Meanwhile, Tori, whose struggles with finances regularly make headlines, received just $1.3 million. Candy also publicly criticised Tori for overspending and has been slammed by the public for not helping her recently when she ended up living in an RV. However, they now appear to have kissed and made up.

Natalie Wood & Maria Zakharenko

Natalie’s life ended in tragedy in 1981.

Maria was a controlling stage mum who reportedly forced Natalie into acting at age five and used controversial methods to ensure her success. When a seven-year-old Natalie was unable to cry on cue for a film, Maria tore a butterfly to pieces in front of her so she would break down sobbing. Maria continued to coach Natalie and micromanage her career for many years, even after she acquired agents. Maria died 17 years after her daughter.

Jennifer Aniston & Nancy Dow

Jen struggled with her mother’s temper.

The Friends actress cut off all communication with her mother Nancy in 1999, after she published a memoir that chronicled intimate details of their relationship. Jennifer, 54, has since discussed their difficult relationship, sharing how disapproving her mother, who died in 2016, was. “She was critical – she was very critical of me,” she told The Hollywood Reporter. “Because she was a model, she was gorgeous and stunning. I wasn’t. I never was.” Jennifer made peace with her in 2005, saying, “It was going to happen when it was supposed to happen.”

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Below Deck’s Luka Brunton reveals when he will move back to NZ

The Kiwi reality star talks love, life on a yacht and his plans for the future

Fans of Below Deck will be disappointed to hear that Luka Brunton – the Raglan boy known for stealing hearts – is back with his old flame and won’t be living up to his playboy reputation any time soon.

Speaking exclusively to Woman’s Day, the Below Deck Down Under and Below Deck Mediterranean star confesses he’s been in an on-off relationship with a Spanish OnlyFans model named Lorena Peach, who he met in Bali in 2019.

“Right now, we’re living together in Majorca, Spain, but we did split up for a while when I was filming,” says Luka, 27. “It’s been really tough for her watching what I’ve been up to on the shows. We’ve had a good discussion about it, though, and she understands everything that’s happened.”

Model Lorena’s making more waves than Luka!

Luka has been romantically involved with a few ladies from both shows and explains it’s hard to resist temptation when you’re in such close quarters with so few people.

“It’s a boat thing,” he laughs. “It just seems to happen because, obviously, you’re living so close together and you can’t really get away from anyone – these are the people around you.”

Not that Lorena is short of admirers – she is represented by Bali Model Agency and has amassed almost 100,000 followers on Instagram, even more than her reality star beau.

The pair spend much of their time travelling separately for work but meet up whenever they can. Meanwhile, due to his busy sailing and filming schedules, Luka says he hasn’t been back in his hometown of Raglan for five years.

“I went back to New Zealand for one day just before we started filming for Down Under,” he explains. “I flew in, changed my suitcase, flew to Australia and started filming. It was hectic! But I definitely do want to come back. I’ve got a friend’s wedding in February, so I’ll be there soon.”

Luka’s hoping for more high-sea adventures before settling down in Raglan.

When asked if he’s been inspired by his fellow Kiwi and Below Deck co-star Aesha Scott, who just recently returned to her hometown of Tauranga, he responds with certainty.

“I definitely will end up living in New Zealand eventually. I’ve been lucky to work on yachts and see so many different places around the world, but there’s nothing like home. We’ll definitely settle there. That’s where I want to have kids, for sure. It’s a great place to bring up some little ones.”

For now, though, when he’s not sailing, Luka spends much of his time going between Spain and Indonesia. His parents made the move to Asia a few years ago. His mum worked as a teacher in Raglan and then moved to an international school in Vietnam. From there, she accepted a job at a sustainability-focused “green school” in Bali and hasn’t looked back.

“The school is amazing,” gushes Luka. “All the classrooms are made out of bamboo and the curriculum is designed around natural stuff, like teaching kids how to make their own gardens. She’s really enjoying it there.”

Getting into Mediterranean mischief with the crew.

Luka has loved Indonesia so much during his visits that he’s put down business roots there. “I’ve actually spent the last nine months in Bali developing an app,” he says.

“It’s called 2-Ways and the idea is that once that gets off the ground, then I won’t really have to work on the boats any more.”

The app is a cross between TikTok and Airbnb, where travellers can look for accommodation, restaurants and activities, all in video form. “It’s to give you a better idea of where you’re staying or what you’re

going to do and you can book it all through the platform.”

While most of the listings are in Indonesia, Luka says the app is ready for people all over the world to start listing their properties. “Eventually we’ll start to market it in New Zealand, which will be really good for us.”

But most importantly, will the heartthrob be back on our screens soon?

“I have no idea!” he says. “I’m just working on a normal boat at the moment and currently just on standby. I’d love to get back on the show, but we’ll see what happens.”

Below Deck Mediterranean is now streaming on Hayu and Bravo.

Royals

Slimmed down & stressed: Have we entered a royal recovery crisis?

The palace fears the King’s monarchy money saver is taking a toll on his over-stretched family

The health crises that have rocked the royal family over the past couple of weeks have hammered home the fact that despite their privilege and wealth, they are also vulnerable to things going wrong.

And the shock news that both the King and the Princess of Wales have needed surgery for medical issues has also raised concerns about the wisdom of having a slimmed-down monarchy.

With the sovereign and the most popular royal out of action – along with Kate’s husband Prince William, who has stepped back from official duties to help care for her and their three children – the UK’s first family has been seriously depleted.

While the King, 75, is only expected to be laid low for a short time by the procedure he’s had for an enlarged prostate, the abdominal surgery Kate, 42, has undergone is clearly more serious. It is due to keep her in hospital for up to two weeks and she’s unlikely to return to work until after Easter – almost three months away.

Normally William, 41, would have been able to cover for his father and his wife, but he’s decided to prioritise Kate’s welfare, and to be on hand for Prince George, 10, Princess Charlotte, eight, and Prince Louis, five, while their mum is recovering.

The next time the Wales family will be seen all together again is after Easter.

Royal experts say having three senior members of the family absent from the public stage at the same time is alarming and should be forcing courtiers to investigate the ability of the House of Windsor to function properly when it is hit by unforeseen setbacks like this. Royal writer Richard Kay says the current health blows have exposed the consequences of having a monarchy that essentially operates with a skeleton staff.

“Shorn of dependable figures, even for a short time, they reveal just how empty the royal cupboard is,” he points out. “For decades the royals glided serenely through many a difficulty because there were enough of them to deploy. If one family member was indisposed, another would seamlessly step in.

“But the turbulence of recent years, from Megxit to Prince Andrew’s Epstein crisis and the death of Queen Elizabeth, has put resources under the heaviest of strains.”

Apart from the King, William and Kate, the main working royals are Queen Camilla, 76, Princess Anne, 73, Prince Edward, 59, and Sophie Duchess of Edinburgh, 58. The Duke of Kent, 88, his sister Princess Alexandra, 87, the Duke of Gloucester, 79, and the Duchess of Gloucester, 77, also carry out official engagements on behalf of the Monarch but are slowing down because of their ages.

Charles has long believed that to be seen as value for money, rather than a drain on taxpayers, and to survive long-term, the royal family needs to be scaled back to just the Monarch and the immediate successors.

But when the King was planning to pare down The Firm, he didn’t take into account the fact that his son Prince Harry, 39, and daughter-in-law Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, 42, would walk away from their roles, or that his disgraced brother Prince Andrew, 63, would have to be relieved of his official duties.

A shortage of “staff” has rung alarm bells for his sister Anne. In an interview 10 months ago, she was asked about her brother’s plans to reduce the royal workforce and replied, “I think ‘slimmed down’ was said in a day when there were a few more people around. It doesn’t sound like a good idea.”

It’s unlikely courtiers anticipated having three key people off sick or caring for others at once, and they need to plan for this possibility in the future, says Richard. “It’s fortunate that these medical bombshells have come at a time when royal duties are traditionally lighter. Imagine if the alarm had occurred midway through a state visit when the King, and also William and Kate, would have been playing central roles.”

Out of action: Worried William is putting his family’s needs first.

The news came completely out of the blue. There had been no clues that Kate had been unwell when Kensington Palace announced on January 17 that she was in The London Clinic recovering from planned abdominal surgery that had been carried out the day before.

“The surgery was successful and it is expected that she will remain in hospital for 10 to 14 days, before returning home to continue her recovery,” read the statement. “Based on current medical advice, she’s unlikely to return to public duties until after Easter.”

Kate appreciated there would be interest in her health issues, but didn’t want to give a reason for the operation. “She hopes the public will understand her desire to maintain as much normality for her children as possible and her wish that her personal medical information remains private.”

Kensington Palace went on to say it would only provide updates on her progress when there is significant new information to share. It’s understood her condition is not cancer-related.

The shock announcement left royal watchers and the public reeling, and then 90 minutes later Buckingham Palace dropped another bombshell when it revealed the King also needed medical treatment. He had just been diagnosed with an enlarged prostate – an ailment that affects many men as they age.

“His Majesty’s condition is benign and he will attend hospital next week for a corrective procedure,” said the statement, adding that his public engagements would be postponed for a short period of recuperation.

“I told you so!” Anne and husband Tim Laurence are picking up the slack.

It’s understood Charles was keen to share his diagnosis to encourage other men who might be experiencing symptoms to get checked.

One of the good things to come out of the King and Kate’s health issues is the royal family’s decision to be open about the fact they have been receiving treatment, says royal writer Robert Jobson. Releasing the statements was

a “ground-breaking departure from the bad old ‘no comment’ days and the long-standing royal tradition of privacy,” he points out.

Letting royal correspondents know Kate’s condition was not cancerous was a smart move because it prevented wild speculation and stopped the public from worrying unduly, he says.

“It marked, in my view, a significant and refreshing shift in approach regarding health and the royals. It was part of a grown-up, sensible nod to modernity and a positive PR strategy.”

In Charles’ case, being open about his prostate issues is important when it comes to talking about a health problem that is often considered taboo, and will encourage others to seek medical care, Robert says. While an enlarged prostate is very common, especially in older men, it should be checked out because the symptoms can be similar to those of prostate cancer.

“By sharing his condition, His Majesty will help to save lives and should be lauded for it,” says Robert, author of Our King: Charles III.

In fact, the day the announcement was made, the National Health Service website’s prostate enlargement page received 11 times more visits than the day before.

Robert says the strategy of transparency aligns with a “more modern, democratic approach to the monarchy, acknowledging the public’s right to be informed given his importance as head of state.”

In the past, even the slightest ailment in a royal family member was “shrouded in secrecy, fuelling way-off-the-mark rumours. This often occurred whenever Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip were admitted to hospital.

“Let’s hope his gesture of openness ushers in a refreshing change in the often inscrutable world of royal affairs.”

Duchess in distress

Just days after the news broke about the King and Kate, it was revealed that another royal has received a shattering health diagnosis. Sarah, Duchess of York, has malignant melanoma, which has been found just months after she went through breast cancer treatment.

A spokesperson for Prince Andrew’s ex-wife says the skin cancer was picked up shortly before Christmas when Fergie, 64, was having surgery.

“Her dermatologist asked that several moles were removed and analysed at the same time as the duchess was undergoing reconstructive surgery following her mastectomy, and one of these has been identified as cancerous. She is undergoing further investigations to ensure this has been caught in the early stages.

“Another diagnosis so soon after treatment for breast cancer has been distressing, but the duchess remains in good spirits.”

The spokesperson adds, “The duchess wants to thank the entire medical team that has supported her, particularly the dermatologist whose vigilance ensured the illness was detected when it was. She believes her experience underlines the importance of checking the size, shape, colour, texture and emergence of new moles that can be a sign of melanoma.”

In an appearance on a TV show in November, mum-of two Fergie revealed that following her breast cancer diagnosis, she was scared of getting the disease somewhere else and would often wake up at night in a panic.

“You start the four in the morning syndrome,” she said on Loose Women. “You know that moment when you suddenly wake up and go, ‘Oh, I’m sure I’ve got cancer somewhere else… I’m going to go and ring my doctor.’ I’m getting over that but it’s only been a few months since my operation.”

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2024’s most wanted Valentine’s Day gifts

These ten gifts are on everyone's wish lists

A Valentine’s Day gift is a beautiful way to show appreciation for your significant other.

Prepare for Wednesday, 14 February, with our guide to the most-wanted Valentine’s Day gifts of 2024. From timeless mementos to unforgettable experiences, these tokens of love will provide all the gifting inspiration you need.

2024’s top ten Valentine’s Day gifts for her and him in New Zealand

1. Romantic travel and adventure experiences

From left: A romantic Mount Maunganui Airbnb, Hot air ballooning with Red Balloon

For those who love a thrill, Red Balloon offers once-in-a-lifetime experiences like hot air ballooning, skydiving, a yacht cruise with dinner or a scenic flight — all being adventures you can embark on together.

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If you prefer a less daring experience, Airbnb has numerous romantic getaways available for booking, including this tranquil retreat at a one-bedroom haven in Mount Maunganui. It’s the perfect way to spend some quality time together.

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Lastly, consider a staycation at a city hotel through Booking.com to take advantage of amenities like day spas, pools, room service and breathtaking views. We recommend the Park Hyatt, Sofitel or Cordis in Auckland Central for an unforgettable night away.

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2. Timeless jewellery

From left: Initial pendant necklaces from Mejuri, Tennis bracelets from The Iconic

Jewellery is a classic Valentine’s Day gift. Our advice? Choose a timeless piece that your Valentine will cherish for years.

The Iconic offers a range of stylish watches, exquisite pearl studs and sophisticated tennis bracelets.

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We also love Mejuri for its affordable yet luxurious jewellery. It offers a selection of initial pendants and charms for a thoughtful touch.

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Sophie, an Auckland-based store, offers a ‘Forever’ service where your chosen chain is soldered to your ankle or wrist — it’s a piece of jewellery that will truly last forever.

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3. Personalised gifts

From left: Monogrammed accessories from kikki.K, Bespoke photo book from MILK Books

Adding a bespoke, personalised touch to a gift will make your loved one feel extra special.

Immortalise precious moments of your relationship in a premium photo book from MILK Books, whether holiday snaps, wedding photos or candid photos captured on your phone.

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Monogrammed stationery is the ultimate personal touch and kikki.K has it all — notebooks, keyrings, wallets and bag straps.

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For the tech-savvy sweetheart in your life, consider monogramming a Casetify phone or earbud case so they can flaunt their unique style.

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4. Matching outfits

From left: 530 sneakers, from $170, from New Balance, Everyday Belt Bag, $69, from Lululemon

If you and your partner enjoy coordinating outfits, consider ‘his and hers’ clothing or accessories.

Our top picks include the New Balance 530 and 550 unisex sneaker styles, perfect for brunch dates.

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The Everywhere Belt Bag from Lululemon is TikTok-viral for a reason. The most-wanted accessory is ideal for romantic weekend strolls.

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5. Sweet and savory treats

From left: Mini Love Spell box, $52.95, from Celebration Box, Brunch Box, $59.95, from The Meat Box

For partners with a sweet tooth, Celebration Box offers gift boxes laden with chocolate and sweets and the option to add on a red rose.

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If your other half loves cooking or you want to surprise them with a hearty breakfast in bed, treat them to this heavenly Brunch Box from The Meat Box. Don’t forget to add some tasty seasonings and sauces to your order to satisfy their appetite.

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6. Beauty and grooming products

From left: Airwrap multi-styler and dryer, $849, from Dyson, Moschino Toy Boy Eau de Parfum, from $119, from Sephora

Beauty products aren’t just reserved for the ladies. Sephora offers a vast selection of beauty products for both men and women, including shower gel and cologne for him and makeup and skincare gift sets for her.

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If you want to truly spoil your partner, consider the viral Dyson Airwrap hair styler in a limited edition Valentine’s Day colour. This trending haircare product is sure to please and comes with a complimentary travel case.

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7. Candles & home fragrances

From left: Nola Cabin Fever candle, from $31.50, from Shop Your Home and Garden, Lunar New Year Rose & Lychee soy candle, $44.95, from Circa

Elevate your romantic evening at home with a captivating fragrance by Nola Candles. We suggest the timeless French Pear or the indulgent Cabin Fever, with its distinctive notes of Tennessee whiskey and bergamot.

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Lyttleton Lights’ gift sets are a sensory delight your recipient will love using. The Sandalwood & Vanilla Home Collection is our pick for its intriguing blend of spicy, woody notes and the sweetness of vanilla bean.

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Express your love with roses uniquely — through Circa’s limited-edition Lunar New Year Rose & Lychee soy candle. This enchanting mix of rose, lychee, and ripe strawberries is just as good, if not better, than a bouquet.

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8. Tech gadgets and accessories

From left: Hero12 Black, $749.99, from GoPro, Galaxy S24 Ultra, from $2,449, from Samsung

If you’re an adventurous couple planning your next holiday, the new GoPro Hero12 Black is ideal for capturing those unforgettable moments. This gadget will take the best snaps of your underwater snorkelling or mountain biking adventures.

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Communication is the cornerstone of any relationship, so ensure your love notes don’t get lost in translation with Samsung’s newest Galaxy S24 smartphones.

With the added benefit of Galaxy AI, these phones can translate voice and text messages across 13 languages in real time, ensuring your heartfelt messages are conveyed just as you intended.

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9. Sex Toys

From left: Dream Wand Sex Toy Gift Box (12-piece), $149.95, from Lovehoney, DeeDee Rabbit Vibrator, $308, from Girls Get Off

Are you looking to explore new terrorities? Lovehoney’s selection of pleasure-enhancing Valentine’s Day gifts for couples will spice up your relationship and strengthen your collection. From app-controlled vibrators to couples’ sex toy kits and gift boxes, these sex toy gifts will keep on giving.

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Popular Girls Get Off brand has debuted its new rabbit vibrator DeeDee, perfect for those seeking dual pleasure points. DeeDee is waterproof, so it promises to make bath or shower time more enjoyable.

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Consider the Frenchie Double Entendre for a playful addition to your Valentine’s evening. It’s user-friendly, offers six pleasure modes, and is 100% waterproof for versatile use.

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10. Sumptuous Lingerie

From left: Intense Power Micro Boxer Briefs (3-pack), $129.99, from Calvin Klein, Sasha Bralette, $29.99 and Sasha G String, $12.99, from Cotton On

Explore Cotton On Body’s collection of vibrant, lacy, and seductive lingerie sets that are both affordable and stylish.

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For a luxury option, consider Calvin Klein. Its men’s underwear blends comfort, and you can’t go wrong with the classic cotton boxer briefs.

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What are the three most popular Valentine’s Day gifts?

The three most popular Valentine’s Day gifts are flowers, chocolates, and jewellery.

While these traditional tokens of love are widely accepted, consider a unique and thoughtful gift idea from our Valentine’s gift guide, whether monogrammed accessories, breakfast hampers, or exhilarating adventure experiences.

What is the best gift to give a girl on Valentine’s Day?

The best gift for a girl on Valentine’s Day is one that shows thoughtfulness and makes her feel cherished. This could be a piece of jewellery, a hotel staycation, or another personalised gift that resonates with her.

What are some ideas for gifts for him?

Gifts for men can vary widely based on their interests and personalities. Some ideas include an exciting experience like a hot air balloon ride, upgrading his favourite tech gadget, or a big-ticket item like a pizza oven or barbeque.

What can I get someone for Valentine’s Day if we’ve just started dating?

Navigating Valentine’s Day gifting can be a delicate task when you’re in the early stages of dating. Aim for a thoughtful yet understated gift to not overwhelm your new partner.

A fragrant candle or an intriguing book, accompanied by a heartfelt card, could strike the perfect balance. The goal is acknowledging the special day without adding undue pressure to your budding relationship.

As with any gift-giving occasion, it’s always essential to consider your recipient’s interests and the stage of your relationship to determine the budget for the present.

Pregnancy & Birth

Kirstie Stanway-Thorne’s baby news and a surprise gender reveal

The Sky Sport presenter discovered she was pregnant days before heading overseas to cover the Rugby World Cup
Robert Trathen

Nervously gripping a confetti tube, Kirstie Stanway-Thorne looks up at her husband Gareth and grins.

“I’m sure it’s a girl,” the expectant mum tells Woman’s Day, before twisting the base to release an explosion of blue – yes, our photoshoot has doubled as a gender reveal.

“Oh, my God, it’s a boy?!” she laughs. “Amazing! Not what I was expecting. I really, in my heart of hearts, thought it was a girl. I wasn’t even contemplating a boy. I even saw a little girl in my dreams, as strange as it sounds!”

Life is full of surprises, which Sky Sport presenter Kirstie, 31, knows full well. In fact, “surprises” sums up her past year perfectly – from unexpected globetrotting to finding out she was pregnant just days before she left New Zealand for a four-month overseas trip.

Oh, boy! Kirstie and Gareth take a moment to digest the big-reveal results.

“Overwhelmed is probably a good word too!” she smiles. “It was a week and a half before I was supposed to fly out and although it wasn’t a shock – we’d started trying for a baby because you never know how long it’s going to take – we just figured it’ll happen when it happens and the timing will be perfect whenever it does.

“And there it was, right before I flew out to cover the Rugby World Cup in France!”

Instinctively knowing something was different with her body, Kirstie’s gut feeling told her she was pregnant at only three weeks along.

She explains, “I’m very, very in tune with my body. If I take medicine, I can feel it working inside me. I just had a feeling, so I told Gareth that I needed a pregnancy test. Of course, he says, ‘Don’t be stupid – we don’t need one of those yet!’ But I couldn’t get this feeling out of my head.”

Kirstie’s suspicions were confirmed instantly – and, hysterically crying with joy, she presented the test to a stunned and somewhat disbelieving Gareth, 38.

“Oh, there was a big initial shock factor, for sure!” she shares. “The first thing he asked me was if I had done the test right! But it was the most beautiful moment – it was like nothing I’ve ever experienced before.”

Then, after only a few days to process the news with Gareth, Kirstie set off alone to France for the World Cup, knowing she’d be away from whānau and friends for four months, with a packed schedule of work, plus a delayed honeymoon following her and Gareth’s January 2023 nuptials.

“It was such a long time. When I left New Zealand, I wasn’t showing at all, then when I came back and saw people, I all of a sudden had this huge bump! It was a real rollercoaster of emotions, to be honest, because I was so happy and so lucky to be in France, covering a Rugby World Cup and absolutely living my best work life – it was an experience of a lifetime.

“But when you’re pregnant, sometimes all you want is your bed and your kitchen to make some toast, and to not live out of a suitcase! A 16-hour flight home in a middle seat when you have to pee all the time is also an interesting one! There were lots of mixed emotions and, of course, I was wildly hormonal!”

As well, Kirstie desperately missed Gareth, who only joined her at the end of the tournament so they could take off on their long-awaited European honeymoon, which turned into a bit of a babymoon.

“It worked out so well in the end because we got one whole month of quality time together, which I’m sure will be in short supply going forward!

“Travelling around was so beautiful and we went to the most amazing places – Sicily, Barcelona, Rome, Canary Islands and then Morocco, before finishing up in Cornwall, in England, to visit family.”

The couple’s honeymoon turned into a babymoon!

After quick stops in Dubai and Cape Town to cover the rugby sevens, Kirstie finally landed back in Auckland four months after leaving – and with a five-month-along bump!

Fittingly, she felt her son’s first kick on the flight from Johannesburg to Singapore – and unsurprisingly given his sport-mad parents, he hasn’t stopped moving since.

“I was in such work mode when I was overseas, I was almost distracted a lot of the time and not consumed with thinking about the baby, but now I’m home and things are normal again, it’s now full

baby mode!” says Kirstie. “I love feeling him move – it’s so nice to have that connection.

“Now we’re just so, so excited to meet him. It’s crazy to look back on it all and think about where this little baby has been. He’s travelled all over the world already – he’s been to a Rugby World Cup final! I can’t wait to be able to tell him the most amazing stories. What a lucky baby.”

Real Life

From meth to mentor: Shannan’s road to recovery

Clean for seven years, the mum of two is helping others fight their addictions

Shannan Hill’s life is a story of redemption. Once a drug addict with dozens of convictions, there were many dark days of addiction, violence, crime and turmoil. But in the battle of her life, Shannan has fought her demons to find sobriety, academic success and win back her family.

Now a full-time drug and alcohol counsellor, Shannan has almost completed a Bachelor of Social Health and Wellbeing degree. She has also received an award recognising her outstanding contribution to addiction recovery – all while caring for and running a household of three adults, and up to eight children and grandchildren.

Sharing her life story with the Weekly, Shannan is matter-of-fact, explaining she was once a confident and bubbly child. However, all that changed with a series of traumatic events at age six when her beloved grandfather died. Not long afterwards, she was sexually abused.

“That was when I started to not feel safe in the world,” recalls Shannan, now 37.

She had her first taste of alcohol at 11 and got black-out drunk.

“When I was 13, I got put into a naughty girls’ home for four months. I developed this real anger towards the world. It wasn’t true, but I felt like no one wanted me.”

Aged 18, a boyfriend introduced her to methamphetamine and Shannan was quickly hooked. “Between meth and alcohol, I thought I had found the solution to life.”

Instead, a desperate battle with addiction followed. With each of her pregnancies, Shannan managed to get clean, but she relapsed in the months after her children Mason, now 15, and James, 13, were born.

The police mugshots are a reminder of how far Shannan has come.

By her thirties, she was using daily, stealing to support her habit and she’d amassed a five-page criminal history with 42 convictions.

“In 18 months, I clocked up 20 charges,” she tells. “I was on a one-woman crime spree, roaming around doing dumb stuff.”

But then a pivotal moment came when family intervened and she lost custody of Mason in 2014. He was six at the time.

Devastated, Shannan tried to get clean, but without support, she relapsed again.

“I’ve had six overdoses where I have been found not breathing and transported to hospital basically dead,” she reveals. “I’m very, very lucky that stuff didn’t actually kill me.”

Finding herself in police custody again in December 2016, she had a moment of clarity.

“I realised I had really stuffed up,” says Shannan, who was accepted into the Alcohol and Other Drug Treatment Court, a Ministry of Justice-led treatment pathway and alternative to imprisonment that aims to treat the cause of offending.

She never dreamed she was worthy of an award.

For the mother of two, starting the intense two-year, evidence-based programme was life-changing. “It was probably one of the hardest times of my life, but the therapeutic growth I experienced was unreal,” she says.

“I faced into the shame I carry around my children and my family. With a lot of hard work, I didn’t pick up alcohol or drugs, no matter what.”

Shannan graduated from the programme in 2018. In the same year, she regained custody of Mason – who had been living with his father – and was granted shared care of James with his dad.

“It was almost like regaining custody of Mason made all the pain and suffering make sense,” she reflects.

In recognition of all that Shannan has overcome, she was also honoured last year with the inaugural Te Whare Whakapiki Wairua Mana Wahine Award, presented through the Alcohol and Drug Court, and sponsored by the Gattung Foundation in partnership with The Kate Edger Educational Charitable Trust.

With the award comes a scholarship to help fund the completion of her Bachelor’s degree.

“I am not academically gifted and have felt like the broken donkey, but I am almost there,” says Shannan. “I couldn’t get a scholarship before because someone like me doesn’t meet the criteria. I have a criminal history.

“I’m not an A-plus student, but I feel secure and happy. I like that I’m working as hard as I can for myself and also to pave the way for other women to come through,” says the Auckland counsellor, who marked seven years of sobriety in December 2023.

“It’s hard to imagine myself as I was,” she says. “These days, I support others in every way I can. I see it as me giving back to a community that I once took from. I owe so much to the drug court.

“I’ll be in recovery for life, but I’ve gone from jail with a criminal history to nearly having a degree and everything in between.”

HELP IS HERE

Alcohol and Drug Helpline – 0800 787 797 or visit healthify.nz/support

Safe to Talk – 0800 044 334 or free text 4334 for help to do with sexual harm. Available 24/7 and staffed by trained counsellors

Need to talk? 1737 – free call or text 24/7 to talk to a trained counsellor

Real Life

Former Labour MP Nanaia Mahuta’s private heartbreak

How losing a baby boy spurred the former MP on to more labours of love
Sacha Kahaki

With almost three decades in Parliament as a Labour MP, Nanaia Mahuta has seen and experienced it all. First elected in 1996, she was just 26 and the youngest-ever successful female candidate at the time.

What followed was a 27-year tenure, where Nanaia became the first wahine in government to wear moko kauae (traditional Māori facial tattoo), the first woman to be appointed Foreign Affairs Minister, first female Māori Development Minister and the longest-serving female MP to date.

She’s a stalwart of Waikato-Maniapoto and the electorate she has represented faithfully for many years, and acknowledges the shift of support to Māori Party MP Hana-Rawhiti Maipi-Clarke, who won the seat at the October election.

But the 53-year-old mother also found both her personal and professional lives the repeated subject of intense scrutiny, criticism and judgement.

Sitting down with the Weekly, Nanaia shares, in her own words, deeply honest and personal reflections from her life. Sometimes pausing to wipe tears, she provides a rare insight into the woman behind the politician.

Nanaia left Parliament with no regrets. “I’m happy to start a new chapter.”

Our family has always been intensely political. Much of my grounding was from my mother and father, who always took an interest in what they could do to make things better for our community and iwi.

Growing up on our marae in Rāhui Pōkeka [Huntly], I had many dreams, from being a hairdresser to a mechanic, a lawyer and an accountant.

But in 1996, I stood against five other mature Māori men for the [Te Tai Hauāuru Māori seat] Labour nomination.

I felt I was an outsider, that all these men had lived their lives and done things, and I was relatively new, with limited life experience by comparison.

I got in as a list MP in 1996, but stood again in 1999 for the Māori seat and held it until 2023.

The induction new MPs get now is fabulous, but then we basically got a few pieces of advice – ‘breathe through your nose, look and learn, and operate as if it were to be on the front of the Sunday newspaper.’

The rest was learned by doing and, as the youngest, it was sometimes hard to figure out what this place was all about.

A younger Nanaia in action.

This was during the time Tainui was going through its [iwi Treaty] settlement. It wasn’t a positive process and my dad, who was very involved in negotiating, wasn’t popular.

There was a view he was pushing me into politics.

He was proud of me, but I remember him saying, ‘This is a choice only you can make because if you get in, you’ll have to accept responsibility for your choices.’

My own tamariki [children], Waiwaia Nukutawhiti, 14, and Niua-Cybele, 11, haven’t known anything else except Mum in politics. My husband Gannin Ormsby, 55, has kept home a very stable base so our kids have not been negatively impacted by me being in Parliament.

We got together in 2001. It was challenging because we are first cousins and society has a view about that. But in many of our whakapapa Māori [ancestry], it’s not an unusual situation.

He’s been my rock, my person, the one I have come home to offload with and try to put into perspective many of the challenges I face.

He’s also a fantastic dad – he’s got humour, patience, life experience and is now at a point where he shares it all with our kids.

Devoted husband Gannin has been “my rock, my person”, says Nanaia.

I’m really pleased for other women – Parliament has become a much more family- friendly place, but it wasn’t what I experienced.

After quite a period of not thinking I could have children, I lost my first child, Ormsby, at 21.5 weeks pregnant in 2008 in the lead-up to the election.

I went into the hospital, had a live birth naturally, and baby lived for about an hour and 20 minutes.

Then around about 10.30pm at night, he passed and we made the decision to bury him early in the morning at 7am.

At 6pm on the same day we buried baby, I had a political panel debate. No one knew what had happened because I wasn’t in a position to talk about it, so it was weeks after people realised I had lost the baby. It didn’t kill me, but it almost broke me.

On reflection, that little baby, that perfect little boy, was a blessing to me because prior to then, I didn’t think I could have children and he showed me I could.

He was perfectly formed but his lungs didn’t develop and weren’t strong enough.

Mum Lady Raiha Mahuta with baby Waiwaia.

We talk about him a lot with our kids now, with love and peace in our hearts. The way we brought him into the world was with love and the way we gave him back was in love.

I got hapū [pregnant] with my son Waiwaia shortly after. He is 14 and Ormsby would be 15. Three years later, I had my daughter Niua-Cybele.

When people ask me how many children I have, I say ‘three, one in spirit’. It’s a way of acknowledging how special Ormsby still is in our lives.

I’ve lost other special people too. In 2001, I lost my father, who was my strongest mentor. In 2006, Te Ata [Māori Queen and Nanaia’s aunty Te Atairangikaahu]. In 2008, Ormsby, then in 2009, my mother, who passed in our house. And during Covid, Uncle Rick, who was like a second dad to me.

There were many others, but these were really key, special people in my life.

Nanaia is relishing family time with Gannin and their kids Waiwaia (left) and Niua-Cybele.

All of that while going through Parliament strengthened my resilience. It also forced me to reflect on what it was about these really special people I needed to hold on to because I would normally seek support and advice from them.

My mum lived for five months after the birth of my second son. We knew Mum was sick, and I told her how sad I was she wasn’t going to be here for him, and she replied, ‘I’ll live for an extra two years then.’

I knew she was only saying it to make sure I got my head back in the game, but it made me feel so much better.

I got a lot of criticism and unkind comments over my 27 years. In the early days, it was things like, ‘She’s sleepwalking her way through Parliament’, ‘Being a princess’, ‘Everything given to her on a plate’, sometimes from people in my own party at the time. The media also had unkind comments and more recently social media as well.

But I couldn’t get too caught up in the negativity or it may have stopped me getting on with business.

My daughter is an anti-bullying champion at school. I’m really proud of her and my son. Everybody deserves kindness, so if the values of our household and whānau are reflected in the actions of our kids, we’re winning.

In June 2023, I made the decision to come off the list ahead of the election to provide space within the Labour tent for new talent, especially Māori women to come through. And now women like Willow-Jean Prime, Arena Williams, Jo Luxton and Cushla Tangaere-Manuel sit on the Labour benches. At the last elections, I was happy to put my experience and leadership up for the voters to decide and accept the outcome. Their support went to the Māori Party.

Parliament can change you, but I’m most proud I’m leaving still the same person, and that I used my skillset in the places I had the privilege to influence outcomes as an MP and minister.

I have no regrets, and now I’m happy to start a new chapter to honour my whānau, children and husband, the sacrifices they’ve made and the many people who have helped me on the way.

I want to thank, in particular, long-standing team members and friends Elaine Wi, Moeroa Devonshire, Honey Heemi and Nevada Halbert more recently. There are more and they know who they are – I am forever grateful to them.

I’m not sure exactly what’s next for me. I had a double hip operation straight after the election. I’m slowly getting back into the garden, recovering and really grateful for the opportunity to feel better in myself. With the new year, it’s a deliberate turning of the page for more work-life balance, more family time and picking up some passion projects I’ve put to the side, like writing and contributing to my marae.

Working in Parliament, you become detached from the day-to-day activities at home, so having the time to really be contributing is very fulfilling. It’s good medicine for the soul.”

TV

How losing 80kgs inspired GKBO’s Joshua Duncan to follow his passion

The Nelson hunk felt like he was trapped in a prison until he underwent life-changing surgery

There’s nothing The Great Kiwi Bake Off contestant Joshua Duncan enjoys more than whipping up one of his lavish fail-proof chocolate cakes, adorned with decorative dried flowers and thick buttercream icing. But you won’t catch the Nelson reality star eating more than a tablespoon of the sweet treat himself!

The civil engineering project manager, 32, once tipped the scales at 143kg and underwent life-changing weight-loss surgery in October 2020, which helped curb his longtime food addiction and led to him losing 80 kilos – so he can no longer stomach the baking he hopes will help him win the TVNZ 1 series.

“I started putting on weight at about age 13,” Josh tells Woman’s Day. “I’d go on crazy fad diets, be really strict and lose loads of weight. Then as soon as I’d stop, I’d gain it back. There was no in-between for me.

“I was so fixated on ‘good’ and ‘bad’ food that if I had one bit of unhealthy food, it was like a switch. I thought I could fill a void by eating a tonne of burgers.”

Before: “I look so sad,” says Josh of his former self.

At 29, the bubbly baker suffered from health problems that affected his joints and breathing. He realised his body could no longer cope with his heaviness when he started waking at night, needing to catch his breath. Seeing no light at the end of the tunnel and feeling defeated, he looked into weight-loss surgery.

“I felt like I was going to die,” recalls Josh. “Food addiction is real and unlike drug or alcohol addiction, you need to eat food to live, so you can’t just go cold turkey.

“I remember looking in the mirror at the time and thinking, ‘You look so sad.'”

He went through the necessary steps to see if he was a fit for irreversible stomach bypass surgery, which involves recreating a smaller stomach underneath the ribcage. After appointments with a dietician, psychologist and surgeon, Josh was accepted for the operation, which he says finally helped him understand what it meant to feel full.

“Before, I loved food, but it wasn’t the quality for me – it was the quantity and having as many calories as possible in an attempt to feel full. I was able to eat and eat and eat, then I’d feel uncomfortable, lie on my bed and think about having something sweet. Now food can go in, but I’ll feel it if I eat too much or too quickly and my stomach will cramp up really painfully. Then I’ll get sweaty and be sick.”

The operation has taught Josh about mindful eating, portion control and savouring flavour. While he would once order burgers and pizzas when dining out, he now opts for

a couple of entrees.

“If I feel like something sweet, salty or savoury, it’s the taste and quality I want, rather than the bang-for-my-buck value! I’m around 70kg now and the healthiest I’ve ever felt. The first time I jogged after losing loads of weight, I couldn’t believe that my knees didn’t hurt! There was no impact on my body when I ran.”

Amid the excitement of his “fun, intense and crazy” experience on Bake Off, Josh also recently started a new job managing the terminal upgrade at Wellington Airport. It means he flies from Nelson to the capital every Monday, returning to his media-shy artist husband of 10 years for the weekend.

“Usually, I bake at home on a Sunday because it’s therapeutic for me,” tells Josh. “But since I can’t eat the baking, I’ll often donate it all. I’ll put it on a social media page we have in Nelson for families who need food or give it to local businesses for a morning tea so it doesn’t go to waste.”

Looking to the future, Josh is keen to jump into more opportunities like Bake Off that he wouldn’t have taken if it hadn’t been for his surgery.

“A few years ago, I knew I was in a prison, but I had no idea what kind of prison it was until I lost all the weight and my body could walk without discomfort,” he reflects. “I’ve never felt so free and confident.”

The Great Kiwi Bake Off screens 7.30pm Thursdays on TVNZ 1.