Blogger We Are Family was shocked when her four-year-old daughter was told adoption “is a very sad thing because it means being taken away from your home and your mummy and daddy.”
Having adopted her daughter as a baby, the mum was devastated that her child thought she’d be taken away again, and that she was different from all of her friends.
To counteract this, the mum, who does not give her name, wrote a touching letter to her young daughter – for her to read when she gets old enough.
“I’m writing it now before I forget all of the emotions and events that whirl past me at a hundred miles an hour as I attempt to mother you to the best of my abilities,” she wrote.
“First and foremost, I love you. I will love you forever. You are the light of my life and the reason I get up in the morning. You are literally the sun and the moon and the stars to me. My world. Corny as it sounds, I still get a shiver of unbelievable joy when I am away from you and remember I will be returning to you soon; The realisation that you are my daughter is like Christmas come early every single time. Imagine having joy like that on tap! – This is your gift to me.”
The mum describes how her and her partner decided to look into adoption, and after a lengthy process got to take home an eight month old baby they showered with love.
She talks about the “trauma” of her birth, but also the “miracle” it is that they found each other.
“My darling daughter, I want to tell you that adoption is not a ‘sad thing’ – it is a wonderful thing. Because without it we would not be together, and we would not be filled up with the love we share for one another. We would not have our morning times when you climb into my bed and slip your little legs over mine, your hand winding up through my hair as you whisper ‘It’s morning time, get up Mummy!’ or the swimming pool sessions when we race up and down the pool, you riding me around the shallows with your feet stuck through the arms of my costume saying ‘faster faster!’
“Or the bicycle rides where I go full throttle over the grassy bits in the park so that you get bounced around in the trailer laughing your head off. We have a brilliant time and truly there is no one I would rather spend time with. No one.”
She signs off the letter: “I wish you as much joy, love and happiness as you have brought to me throughout your life.
“You are simply, truly amazing, and I will love you with all of my heart forever.
“Your Mummy xxxxxxx”
Read her beautiful note in full here.
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