Dear Wendyl, oy 22-year-old son recently moved out of home to get a flat with his girlfriend. I missed him for a while but now my husband and I are quite enjoying our life together again and not having to worry about cooking an extra meal or whether he will be home for it. The problem is that he has since split up with his girlfriend and wants to move back in, but I really don’t want him to. I feel as though we have just started living our life again. How do I tell him “no”? Shirley, Wanganui
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Dear Shirley, I have adult children too, and they tend to come and go a bit, as did I at that age. I know what you are saying about enjoying your life with your husband again, but I also believe that there should always be a “candle in the window” waiting if kids need to come home. Why not explain that you have your own life now but let him come home for a while, say three months, to sort himself out. That way you’re being a supportive mum, but it won’t be long before life is back to the way you like it.Wendyl
