Dear Wendyl
I developed postnatal depression four months ago when my daughter was five months old. I told my family, partner and friends about it and said I needed help, yet everyone seems to ignore me. My partner says he doesn’t understand, despite my explanations, and my family and friends won’t mention it or respond when I do. I feel hurt, lonely and angry with them for not supporting me. What can I do?
Jessica, by email
Dear Jessica
It may help you to know that 20-30% of new mums experience postnatal depression, so you are far from alone here. Unfortunately, many people find it hard to accept that someone may have an illness of this sort, as there are still many prejudices about any illness which is “in the mind”.
I think you need to urgently talk to your doctor and get help from the community. It may be that with a bit of support you can find ways to get them to understand in a way they feel more able to help.
Visit www.postnataldistress.org.nz. They’re based in Auckland but do phone support. Your GP will also know of support groups near you, so please take this seriously and reach out for help.
