I read in the paper about a café where staff asked a mother not to breastfeed in public and I noticed it whipped up quite a controversy. Personally, I’m on the side of the café and would have taken my baby elsewhere to feed because I know it makes some people feel uncomfortable. However, my daughter, who is the mum of a baby herself, disagrees and says she has every right to enjoy a coffee too. If other customers don’t want to see her feeding, they should just look away. We agreed to disagree, but I’ve noticed she hasn’t suggested we go out for coffee since. Should I bring it up and risk a row or wait for it to blow over?
There is often quite a gap between what is acceptable or unacceptable from one generation to the next. Two clear differences are what a woman wears when she is pregnant and how and where she breastfeeds. My generation wore loose-fitting, unrevealing marquees to cover up and breastfed discreetly – often shutting ourselves away. This generation (about one-and-a-half generations younger) often wears very close-fitting clothing, even bikinis, and are very proud of their bumps.