A good friend will stand by you when times get rough. A best friend meanwhile, will lash out at whatever made time rough for you to begin with – promising to give that guy that broke your heart a stern talking to.
An example of such a friend comes in the form of this letter writer, who became so frustrated at her best pal’s husband, she wrote him a message.
Taking aim at the husband for causing the couple to divorce, she cuts him to shreds in a dozen neat paragraphs.
And while it isn’t spelled out exactly how the husband broke his wife’s heart, it’s pretty clear he messed up along the way.
“This divorce is your fault,” she writes. “You hurt my friend, you lied to my friend, and you betrayed my friend. She’s handling this like the strong, resilient, compassionate badass that she is, and the two of you are managing to cohabitate in relative peace until you are able to help your kids through this transition and life change. You are both amazing parents, and she’s putting aside her pain to put the needs of your kids ahead of her need to have you move out immediately. You are treating each other with respect during this time, and even finding time to laugh and share family meals, and I admire the hell out of both of you for that. While your arrangement isn’t a feasible option for all separating couples, many folks could take a page from your book here to mitigate some of the hurt and anger that often accompanies the splitting up of a family.”
But then, the friend gets angry, saying that the fact her friend is being so great about it all isn’t the point.
“Just because she’s being a fing pillar of dignity and strength, doesn’t mean that I’m not pissed. Oh, I’m pissed. I’m pissed, and I’m looking at you, sir. You see, this is happening and it has to happen and it should happen, but you are the reason this is taking place. She is willing to recognize what a good father you are, and acknowledge your redeeming qualities as she works to forgive you for your indiscretions, but I don’t have to do that. I get to pull the Best Friend Card here, and I get to just be pissed the f off that you are the catalyst for the heartbreak, pain, anxiety, and overwhelming stress that you are causing my friend. So, F** YOU DUDE.”
She tears into him for making her friend sad, scared, anxious about money and a mess on the inside, all while trying to put on a brave face for her kids and the world.
After a few more paragraphs of putting him in his place, the friend writes: “She’s going to be happy again. She’s going to be stronger. She’s going to do this thing on her own. She’s going to forgive you. She’s going to remind me of what a good dad you are, and how you are emotionally invested in helping the kids through this because you know you f*** up royally, and I’m going to be over here waving my middle finger in your direction.
“If you get a shipping compartment full of roaches, don’t call me. I have no idea what you’re talking about. Love, The BFF.”
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