You’ve started trying, but it hasn’t happened yet
• Your GP should do initial testing – such as a semen analysis, and blood tests to confirm ovulation
• Don't be afraid to ask questions
• If you meet the criteria, your GP can refer you for a consultation with a specialist. Insist on this if you've been trying for over a year and have no answers from the initial testing. (You can also self-refer for a private fertility specialist consultation at any of the fertility clinics, and although you'd pay for this initial consultation, if you're eligible, you will still then be placed on the waiting list for publicly funded treatment).
• Optimise your chances of conception by improving your lifestyle
• Ensure you know when the fertile window is – this is your most powerful information when trying to get pregnant!
You need help or are undergoing treatment
• Seek out further information on your diagnosis or treatments from your specialist, clinic or Fertility NZ. Not Dr Google!
• Research consistently demonstrates the physiological and emotional benefits of in-person support. Meeting others 'in the same boat' can be incredibly powerful, particularly if you feel isolated by infertility
• A diagnosis of infertility is a life crisis. It may help to acknowledge the size of this challenge (probably one of your biggest in life) in order to deal with it pragmatically. Trying to keep a balance between your infertility and other aspects of your life can help you to feel a little less overwhelmed.
• Ask questions and take notes. Your specialist(s) will be familiar with the treatments, chances of success and options for your particular situation. If you need an additional appointment to explore options, this may well be worthwhile
• Fertility clinic counsellors are experienced at helping people navigate the options and challenges of a fertility journey
• Don't be afraid to ask for a second opinion, or to switch to a different specialist within the clinic