Sex shock

Dear Wendyl, I overheard my husband talking to his best mate about our sex life. I didn’t think men talked about that sort of thing and I was so surprised that I’m ashamed to say I eavesdropped on them. But now I wish I hadn’t. According to my husband, I’m a bit boring and tend to just lie there like a “stunned mullet”. I thought I was pretty good at it actually and have never had any complaints. My problem is that I feel I should talk to him about it but I don’t want him to know I was listening in on his private conversation with his friend. Any ideas? oullet, Hamilton

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Dear oullet, Well are you? You must know whether you are simply lying there waiting for it to be over. If you are, then it’s time to talk. In my opinion there is no such thing as a bad lover, only bad lovers, because there are two of you in the bedroom so it is unfair of your husband to complain. Set aside the eavesdropping – in a case like this it’s the least of your worries – and just admit to your husband that you did it, then use the opportunity to talk about what is going on.

Don’t feel uncomfortable – most couples go through a period in their lives when the sex gets a little predictable. Just use it as an opportunity to talk to each other about having more fun. If you need any inspiration there are numerous websites that can give you some help but I’m betting your husband will already have a few ideas if you let him tell you about them. And remember, sex is about fun, not obligation.Wendyl