Signs your kids might be ruling the roost include:
- If they don't want to do a particular family activity nobody does it, even if it's something you are keen on.
- They rarely join the rest of the family for meals, eating in their room instead.
- They expect you to drop everything to chauffeur them around.
- They don't help out with household chores, or do the bare minimum.
- They go to bed whenever they want.
- You have to cook separate meals because one or more child won't eat what everyone else is having.
- Spending time with their friends takes precedence over you and their siblings.
- Little kids throwing tantrums if they don't get what they want.
- Bigger kids also throwing tantrums or being sulky and withdrawn.
- They don't ask permission to do things.
How to set boundaries for your children
- Setting some tougher guidelines. Insist that they ask permission to have friends over or go to various events; that they join in at family times; and that they complete their assigned tasks without having to be nagged. This will help them develop self-discipline.
- Following through. If they break the rules, they must face the consequences. Set reasonable punishments and don't let them off the hook.
- Never giving in to tantrums. It takes patience to stand your ground over whatever it is that has caused them to lose the plot, but it's worth doing because if you give in, they will understand that throwing a fit allows them to get their way.
- Making sure that they understand they are part of a family and have to consider and respect others, including their parents. Having regular family meetings to discuss issues can help with this.