Family

Dating in your late forties

Just because you start dating again in your late forties doesn't mean you're a "cougar", but what do you do if your kids think you are?

**Dear Wendyl,

**I’m a woman in my late forties and I’m divorced with three adult children. Until recently I’ve been a bit of a homebody, but I joined a book club and really love the women in it. We’ve started meeting up for drinks and dinner and my social life has really taken off. In fact, I met a younger man in a bar one night and took him home.

Then my son came over to fix a broken window the next morning and realised I had a visitor. The look on his face was priceless, but now the kids want to have a “family meeting”. I think they’re going to tell me off or something.

How do I get through the meeting and still keep my dignity?

Not a Cougar, by email

Dear Not a Cougar,

Well done, you! As long as you’re being careful and using condoms (there are some wicked STDs out there) and have good instincts when it comes to who you invite home with you, I don’t think there’s any cause for worry. But that’s what your children are doing, so see their reaction for what it is.

They want to protect and look after you, which is lovely. Tell them how happy your new social life is making you and reassure them that you’re making good choices.

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