**Dear Wendyl,
**My boyfriend has spent the past six months training for a marathon and is looking fantastic. He has lost 20kg and is gorgeous. The problem is that he’s now too tired for sex. If he’s not working, he’s training and if he’s not training, he’s eating and if he’s not eating, he’s sleeping. I thought fit guys were supposed to be dynamite in bed! I’ve tried waking him up but he just gets grumpy. Got any ideas?
*Sex-starved, Takapuna
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**Dear Sex-starved,
**Let’s look at the positives. He’s fit, he’s hot and I assume he’s happy. He’s also a lot healthier, which is something for you to celebrate, and I hope you have been really supportive of his lifestyle changes. I’ve never lived with a marathon runner so I have no idea how it affects libido, but I suggest you organise some romantic “encounters”. Maybe suggest he takes a break from training one weekend and plan a romantic weekend away. And talk to him about how you feel – it may be he’s just forgotten to prioritise it with everything else on his plate.
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