I hate the saying "spice it up" when it comes to romance because I feel like it implies you're being boring and it flares up my Sharynoia, but I can't resist a Spice Girls reference, so here goes: Relationships of the world, spice up your life!
Long-term partnerships can be amazing, but the sexual sidewill definitely change in some capacity. For example, how do you keep the magic alive with someone you see every day, especially after you've both become so comfortable farting in front of each other? It's like having the same meal over and over again. Even if pizza is my favourite food, after a while, I'm going to get bored of it. I gotta spice things up. But how? Here are five ways:
This is an activity that will help keep your relationship alive. It's what builds up that sexual energy in the first place. You could send cute texts throughout the day. Tease your partner. Lock eyes with them across the room for a few seconds too long. Hold hands. Play-wrestle. Continue some of the fun, flirty activities you did when you first met and it will help to keep the romance alive.
Keep your independence, hang out with your friends and have your own hobbies. This creates polarity and polarity creates attraction. This gives you new things to talk about and experiences to share.
Intimacy really starts with emotional vulnerability, sharing what you really like or would like to try, and listening to your partner's needs and desires with no judgement and an open heart.
Make a plan every few weeks to dress nice or different from what you normally do, then do something fun and exciting together – just the two of you. Be adventurous.
We might think that we know everything about our partners, but we don't and we never will. Every day, try to act like they're a whole new person with different experiences. Ask them questions like, "What was the strangest thing you saw today?" or, "What have you enjoyed the most in our sexual relationship this far?"