Dear Wendyl, I have an 18-year-old daughter who is in a steady relationship with her boyfriend of two years. We let him stay in her room at our house in the weekends and I know they have sex because I arranged for my daughter to go on the Pill when she asked me to. My problem is that they are really noisy at night, if you know what I mean. Sometimes both my husband and I get woken up and I think that’s just not on. What can I do to get her to keep it quiet?
Rosie, by email
Ewwww! That’s not nice, is it? I can’t imagine anything more uncomfortable than listening to your daughter having sex, so we have to fix this straightaway. You need to tell your daughter what’s happening, because she’s probably totally unaware and thinks that because you’re both asleep you can’t hear anything. She will be mortified, but I think you will find the problem will quickly disappear after that. If not, I suggest earplugs in the interim and that your daughter moves out.
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