Relationships

“The big surprise is that we are not only siblings, we are also a couple.”

This brave bride shaved her head at her own wedding reception to pay tribute to her new husband who is battling terminal cancer.

The people who made them had just one job.

And the story of how they fell in love is beautiful!

After 72 years apart, Roy tracked down his great love Nora and popped the question.

Has one of the great mysteries of the human condition finally been explained?

“Marriage is basically agreeing to not sleep in a comfortable position again for the rest of your life.”

Usually relationships aren't over at the first sign of trouble – so how do you spot divorce looming? Top divorce lawyer Ayesha Vardag gives the internet her advice.

Can a critique of someone’s interior decorating include the presence of their surly 20-year-old?

It’s not what you think…

When those three words are the last ones you want to hear.

Post-breakup, sometimes that’s simply not an option...

An Auckland couple have tied the knot after meeting each other for the first time on their big day

Don’t believe everything you hear. Don’t believe what you hear about how to spot a liar, either.

You can’t start a fire without a spark.

If humans are meant to mate for life, why do so many of us get it so horribly wrong when it comes to choosing a partner?

The courts are finding new ways to right injustices in relationship property splits. Donna Chisholm looks at how the legal landscape is changing.

Sex and love can be an addiction as well as a part of life. This is how you can recognise and treat a love addiction.

A new survey shows Kiwis are interested in watching the home entertainment release of Fifty Shades of Grey

Tips to help you nurture your relationships and be a better friend

Research shows we’re having more extra-marital affairs than ever before. Michael Sheather reports on the reasons for this – and why women are making the first move.

The best kind of man for a newly separated girl about town.

The pre-app, personal touch of Table for Six’s dating and dining service.

Here’s five reasons to spend more time in the sack.

A new global survey has shed some light on how Kiwis stack up in the bedroom

A visit to an old haunt brings close encounters of the strangest kind.

An attractive Frenchman – and some lessons on lust and lying.

The quirky actor reveals why he and wife Susan Downey work so well together, professionally and personally!

The star reveals how she and her husband make date night happen - and it might not be what you think!

After overcoming personal crises together, Peter Gordon and Hinewehi Mohi focus their positivity on a new passion.

We parents just can’t help ourselves. Our toddler said something hilarious, so we tweet it. We’re so proud of our teenager for passing their piano exam with flying colours that we post details on Facebook. Our Instagram account has shot after shot of our kids looking adorable and getting up to all sorts of mischief. […]

Agony Aunt-Wendyl Nissen gives advice.

Being given the cold shoulder usually means something is amiss in your relationship. But the challenge is to find out what’s gone wrong.

A new partner has a troubled teen.

The woman he cheated with is pregnant.

You might need to accept he’s so bored he’d rather be without you. It’s time to take action... put some effort into your relationship.

Catherine is confused by the way she is being treated.

Menopause isn't a negative experience for all women.

Dear Wendyl, I’m worried I’ve married into a family of alcoholics. At our wedding six months ago my husband’s mother threw up in the hedge during the speeches, his father took a swipe at one of the waiters, his sister crashed behind the bar and his brother got so drunk the night before he went […]

What happens when your family gets involved in a Facebook feud?

A reader laments about spending her 50th birthday alone.

Having a big age gap in a relationship might be fine now, but what about further down the track?

Sam asks about moving in with his girlfriend.

A sister discusses inheritance issues.

A sister asks about being treated like dirt.

A recently divorcee father's relationship with his children.

Finding something to do in retirement can be a challenge for some people.

Advice on what to do when a new partner doesn't quite fit your expectations...

Advice on how to deal with a parent who is always working.

My friend gets angry that she’s not invited...

My lifelong friend of more than 20 years recently confided to me that she has been cheating on her husband for six months.

Seeking information from a tarot card reader is all well and good, but it should never be taken too seriously – especially if it is putting your friendship at risk.

I moved in with my partner six months ago and we are getting on well in most departments. I knew when I met him that he had very different taste to me, but now I’m having to live with it.

My marriage recently split up after my husband (their father) left me for a younger woman...

There are two dates on a woman’s calendar that should not be messed with – her birthday and Valentine’s Day. So when his mates turn up, what is a girl to do?

Dear Wendyl, My partner’s parents are divorced and have been for the past 20 years. They really hate each other so we’ve always seen them separately, which has worked out fine. The problem is we now have a young daughter, who they both adore and love to spend time with, but they are using her […]

Sometimes feeling the same enthusiasm for our children’s partners can be a bit of a struggle, but interfering is not the answer.

It is one of the most dreaded feelings we can experience — returning to work after a holiday

Dear Wendyl, When I first met my wife, she smelled delicious to me. She didn’t wear any perfume and was a very natural sort of lady.

Dear Wendyl, I have a mother who is 98 and in care. Her sight and hearing are bad and every time I visit it’s really depressing to see that her quality of life has been reduced so much. Last time I saw her she told me that she wanted to die. She said she had […]

Dear Wendyl, My sister has a five-year-old daughter who I am worried about. I recently heard that she offered her daughter a small piece of venison for dinner and my niece refused to eat it. My sister sent her to bed without tea and for the next two to three days offered only that same […]

Dear Wendyl, My 20-year-old son was the result of a brief fling on a holiday many years ago, but I’ve always fudged this a bit with him, saying his father and I “lost touch”.

Dear Wendyl, A few years ago a member of our family went off the rails and descended into a sordid life of drink and drugs, with some thieving too, which resulted in time in prison. The good news is that he has found God and is now a different person. The downside to this is […]

Dear Wendyl, What should you do if you think there is a case of elder abuse going on? I suspect that the little old lady next door is being assaulted by her son...

Dear Wendyl, I am one of five children, but my widowed mother has decided that I am the one who must look after her...

Dear Wendyl, I have recently ended a relationship. I lost it in a fit of anger after some months of being rejected and pushed away.

Dear Wendyl, I had been with my boyfriend for six years and then we broke up because we are of different religions...

Dear Wendyl, My 18-year-old daughter and I used to have a really good relationship. But lately, every time we go out she seems to enjoy criticising how I look.

**Dear Wendyl, **My brother-in-law recently split up from his wife and had nowhere to go, so we said he could come and stay with us for a while. Well, it’s been six months and he’s still living with us – rent-free, slobbing around in a depressed state and making no effort to find his own […]

Dear Wendyl, I recently met a man at a party who I really like. We are both in our forties and he’s been single for two years, while I’ve been alone for a lot longer.

Dear Wendyl, I am a working mum with two kids and a very nice husband who does his fair share of the housework. My problem is that he has boundless energy and I don’t.

Dear Wendyl, I recently took my mother-in-law on an overseas trip to see my two adult children who live in Australia with their father.

Dear Wendyl, My granddaughter is four years old and an absolute delight to be with. When she spends time with me we get up to all sorts of mischief with adventures in the bush and quite a lot of playtime, which leaves her a bit dirty. Her mother has asked me to stop playing with […]

Dear Wendyl, I have an 18-year-old daughter who is in a steady relationship with her boyfriend of two years.

Dear Wendyl, I’m in my sixties and my husband died two years ago. I’ve found that since he has gone, I have no friends...

Dear Wendyl, Two years ago I met and fell in love with a man, and before we knew it we were pregnant.

Dear Wendyl, My boyfriend has spent the past six months training for a marathon and is looking fantastic. He has lost 20kg and is gorgeous...

Breaking up is always hard, regardless of whether you are the “dumper” or the “dumpee”.  Too often we stay in a relationship that no longer serves us well, and soon become trapped in a downward spiral of emotional misery. Staying true to yourself is a hard thing to do, and being upfront and honest from […]

Dear Wendyl, When I split up from my husband I had no interest in starting another relationship, preferring to focus entirely on my two children...

Dear Wendyl, I’ve been having an affair with someone I shouldn’t be having an affair with and I really want to stop, but he won’t let me.

Dear Wendyl, I’m a divorcee, in my forties and desperate to be in a relationship again. I’ve met guys who I think are right for me...

Dear Wendyl, Am I being a stalker if I became a Facebook friend of my ex by using another name?

Dear Wendyl, I’m a teenage girl and I live in a small town. Last year my friend had a party and after a few drinks I found myself in a corner with her...

Dear Wendyl, My next door neighbour eats a lot of junk food and so do her kids. I, on the other hand, take my children’s health really seriously...

Dear Wendyl, I’ve been taking the Pill for years and I’m a bit sick of it as it makes me put on weight and feel quite bloated and disgusting.

Dear Wendyl, My partner’s ex insists that when we have his child to stay, I write down everything I feed him in a diary. I started doing it, then realised she might be being unrealistic. Surely his father (and I) can be trusted? What do you think? Jane, by email Dear Jane, Just don’t do […]

Dear Wendyl, When my coffee group has its regular get-togethers the conversation often turns to sex. Although I’m not a prude, I feel quite awkward...

Dear Wendyl, My husband of nearly 20 years came home the other night and told me he has gone off me sexually. He said it while we were watching TV.

How can you tell if he really loves you? Is it in his kiss? He says he loves me but he’s always late, never pays, prefers his mates, flirts openly, fires up regularly, ignores my family, tells porkies, criticises my dress sense, forgets my birthday, does nothing around the house and is the host with […]

Dear Wendyl, I have a dear friend who has always been eccentric, but it’s something I love about her. During the last four years, however, she has had three life crises which have involved yoga retreats, shaving her hair and living by some new book she found. I’ve always tried to be supportive but have […]

Dear Wendyl, My sister had her engagement party recently and everyone had a good time, or so I thought. My other sister told me my engaged sister was “disappointed”...

Dear Wendyl, My husband and I signed up at a local gym two months ago as we both decided it would be fun to get fit together and have a shared interest.

Dear Wendyl, My daughter is mad-keen on soccer and athletics. She has practice most nights and plays games or competes on weekends.

Matchmaking is an art form, a God-given gift that elevates the rare individual who possesses the skill to a level of genius. It’s a brave person that chooses to venture through the psyche of another, believing they have what it takes to make the other happy. I am not one such person – but when […]

Dear Wendyl, I’m in my early thirties, very fun-loving and social, and married to the sweetest man you could find. But a while ago I spent a weekend away with some friends and something terrible happened. I slept with one of my girlfriends, which at the time seemed quite natural, as we were all a […]