Most women feel a sense of guilt regarding how much or little they see the people they love.
A recent Woman’s Day survey revealed that we are all in the same boat. It’s helpful to know that when it comes to spending time with your friends, we all feel the same – it’s not just you who feels guilty so don’t be too hard on yourself. Friendships are very important, not only to us but also for our health and wellbeing, so consider these tips if you would like to nurture your relationships and be a better friend.
1. Value the little things
Simple yet regular communication can be enough to maintain your connection and let your friends and loved ones know how important they are to you. Whether it be a text message or a phone call when you’re in a supermarket queue, let them know they’re in your thoughts – don’t wait to get in touch until you feel like you ‘owe’ it to a friend to catch up.
2. Listen and remember
Be present when you have conversations and take note of what your friend chats about, including any upcoming events they mention. Make a point to remember these dates and be in touch to acknowledge them.
3. Send a card
Receiving a piece of handwritten mail is rare these days, which makes it extra special. Pop a note into a card and mail it to a friend you haven’t been in touch with for a while. Or go old-school and send a card to a friend for their birthday – simple yet meaningful.
4. Put it in the diary
How often do you hear yourself saying to your friends “we must catch up”? Instead, pause with your friend and be bold enough to put a date in the diary. Just make a time, no matter how far in advance it needs to be.
5. Don’t over-promise
Don’t be the friend who always agrees to catch up and then cancels at the last minute. Be considerate before accepting an invitation and if it looks as though it won’t work, say so. Your friend will be far more disappointed by a last-minute cancellation than if you say no in the first instance. Agree on an alternative.
6. Quietly cherish
When we take a moment to think about what a friend, mum or loved one means to us, it takes the obligation out of the equation. Spend a moment or two contemplating how important each of your loved ones are and why. Feel gratitude for what they add to your life and share those feelings with them.
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