How to check in with a friend
Start by asking how they're feeling (you could mention any changes you've noticed). Use a prompt such as, "You haven't seemed yourself lately – are you feeling okay?" Trust your instinct and don't be afraid to ask twice – people often say "I'm fine" when they're not.
Give them your full attention and let them know you're not judging. You don't have to diagnose problems or offer solutions, but asking questions lets them know you're listening. For example, "That can't be easy – how long have you felt this way?"
Help them focus on simple things that might improve how they feel. Are they getting enough sleep? Exercising? Eating well? Suggest they share how they are feeling with others they trust and if they've felt low for more than two weeks, advise they chat with their doctor.
Follow up your conversation with a catch-up or phone call. This shows you care and you can see whether they are feeling any better.
- Get in the shower – the warm water and steam helps you relax.
- Roll one testicle between your thumb and fingers, checking for any changes, pain or anything that doesn't feel right. Repeat on your other testicle.
- If think you've found something unusual (lump, swelling, pain, etc), see your doctor.
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