Acknowledging where you are at is the first step to transforming how you feel. It is easy to busy ourselves with distractions such as social media, unrelenting emails, poor-quality food or the numerous requests from others instead of experiencing our own thoughts and feelings.
Self-love is about approaching yourself with the same kindness and forgiveness as you would a friend, your child or even a stranger. If you were in a café and a stranger dropped their drink everywhere, would you think 'Oh you're so useless'? Probably not. Yet, for many of us those exact thoughts would come into our heads if it were us who dropped the drink. Our internal chatter, particularly if we are running on flat batteries, can be so destructive. Self-love starts with changing the chatter.
Remember it won't last forever. Our emotions are truly like the weather and when the rain sets in it can be hard to imagine the sun will ever be able to break through, but it does. Learning to love all parts of you – the rainy parts, the sunshine and everything in between – can be really supportive when you're feeling a little lost.
Life is fast and our schedules are full. Doing what you can to create spacious micro-moments in your day can be the catalyst to slowing down. It might be three long slow exhales in the bathroom or taking a longer route to work to give yourself some more time to process your thoughts. It might be changing your thinking in situations where you feel most frustrated from 'What am I not getting?' to 'What am I not giving?'. It is astounding how this simple change in thinking can transform how you feel. Micro-moments will be on offer to you all day – are you willing to see them?