We humans are complex creatures and it’s hard to define exactly what it is that creates a spark between two people. What draws one person to somebody will not necessarily draw another, although many of us would agree that someone who is self-assured (without being arrogant) and intelligent is attractive to us.
In an attempt to cut through the confusion, Hal Runkel, one of America’s leading authorities on relationships, shares his three caveats for attraction with Business Insider.
Here are the traits he believes make us most magnetic to other people, when it comes to forming relationships:
Vulnerability without neediness
“We like people strong enough to reveal themselves, without needing us to validate them.”
Humility without embarrassment
“We like people who can laugh at themselves and yet still be comfortable in their own skin.”
Confidence without cockiness
“We like secure people who can pursue what they want without needing to prove anything.”
So, there you have it. Three starting points in the eternal quest for lifelong love…
